How to Change Your Life?

Is it possible to change your life? Is it realistic to make a goal to change yourself? The answer is ‘yes’ and I’ll show you exactly how you can do it.

Millions of people have been able to change. Millions of people have quit smoking, drugs, gambling, or alcohol. If other people can do it, you can do it too. Other people don’t have special powers that you don’t have. They have simply used very effective strategies that helped them change their life.

If you desire to change, the first step is to write down a clear goal of what you want to accomplish. Let’s say you want to quit drinking. Make sure you clearly write down your goal: I want to be alcohol-free for the rest of my life and live a sober life. Now, how will you know you have achieved your goal? The goal of change is not a destination but a process. Some goals in life are a destination, such as travelling to Paris or making 1 million dollars.  Goals that relate to change are usually a process and not a final destination. For example, the goal to be fit and healthy is not a destination. Even when you achieve a high level of fitness, you still have to go to the gym every day to maintain it. If you stop going to the gym, you’ll quickly lose all the gains you have achieved.  The same applies to business. Maybe your goal was to start your own business. Once you have started your own business, you still have to work hard every day to make your business successful.

Since change is a process goal, how will you know that you have achieved your goal? Well, let’s go back to the goal we’ve set at the beginning, which is to quit alcohol. After one day of being alcohol-free, you’ll know you’re on your way to achieving your goal. Does it mean you have achieved your goal and you’re done working on it? No, you still have to work on it for the rest of your life. You can perhaps start with a goal of being alcohol-free for 30 days. But even after 30 days, you’ll still have to work on your goal. That’s how real change happens. So, does it mean you’ll have to work on your goal for the rest of your life? The answer is ‘yes’. But the good news is that it gets a lot easier after a few months and a few years.

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After one year of being sober, it will be natural for you not to drink. Does it mean you’ll never be tempted to drink again? No, but you’ll have developed the ability to resist your urges. Change requires a long-term commitment to the new life you want to experience. Your goal is to stay sober one day at a time. That’s all you can do. And if you do stay sober one day at a time, then you’ll be successful. The same applies to most goals in life. If you want to be fit, you’ve got to commit to exercise and healthy food for the rest of your life. If you want to quit tobacco and be a non-smoker, you’ve got to review your goal daily. Every day, you’ve got to promise yourself that you’re not going to smoke.

I hope you understand that change does not happen in an instant. Each day is a new day. Therefore, every day, you’ve got to repeat your pledge to stay sober or to exercise. There’s no magic pill that will make you fit for the rest of your life. It’s a daily choice to do what is required to achieve the goals that you truly desire.

David Roy

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