Self-confidence is an important tool that can help you to grow and achieve better results, both in your personal and professional life. A confident person is much more likely to win a job interview, make new connections, be attractive to the other sex and so enjoy life that much more.
Self-confidence is an important tool that can help you to grow and achieve better results, both in your personal and professional life. A confident person is much more likely to win a job interview, make new connections, be attractive to the other sex and so enjoy life that much more. It is a vital aspect that can greatly influence your daily life and it is a personal trait that you can get full control of. Confidence itself is not exactly something you can turn on and off but the factors that contribute to it are. A person is confident when they are at peace with themselves and their decisions.
I used to be lacking in confidence. I would go so far to say that I was a wallflower who kept myself small, quiet and out of view. Only since learning techniques and strategies to develop myself, have I been able to step in front of my shadow and live life with confidence. Here are some techniques that have helped me to gain confidence in myself.
1. Identify Yourself
Have you ever been in a position where you had to talk about who you are and you didn’t know what to say? This can often happen during a job interview when your potential employer asks you to describe your strengths and weaknesses. A lot of people freeze and tend to give extremely generic answers such as: “I’m a hard worker” and “My weakness is being too nice”. These answers have the reverse desired effect of making the employer think you’re just another face in the crowd with no special attributes they can make use of.
Twice a year, I apply a technique that I call ‘Mobile Feedback’. I send a text message to good friends who I trust with the following message:
“In my quest to continuously improve myself, I would like your feedback on what you observe about me: my character, personality and characteristics. Who am I to you? What do I represent? What are my qualities?”
The responses I receive are sometimes surprising. It is that we don’t always see ourselves in the way that others see us. I have been told that I am a ‘strong woman’, ‘a nurturer’, ‘always positive’, ‘supportive’, amongst other traits. Knowing ourselves takes much more than self-observation. Constructive feedback from others gives a wonderful insight into the depths of ourselves that we miss or take for granted.
A Life Design Coach is that trusted and supportive friend. A Life Design Coach will give you feedback and can help you write down your key attributes and develop strategies for furthering your personal development.
2. Mold Your Image