Most people will go through five stages in learning to cope with Fibromyalgia…denial, anger, fear, hope and acceptance.
No one wakes up one morning and wishes to have a debilitating chronic illness like Fibromyalgia. It’s a traumatic experience that pushes you to your limit. Fibromyalgia isn’t terminal, but sometimes you wish it was because at least then you would know that there is an end to the pain. Most people will go through 5 stages in learning to cope with Fibromyalgia…denial, anger, fear, hope and acceptance.
I’m not sick. There’s nothing wrong with me. I’m just going to live my life and not think about it. I got stuck in this stage for years, because it took years for me to get a diagnosis. I would start to get to the point where I could at least acknowledge that something was wrong with me only to get pushed back to the denial stage by my family and friends who were convinced it was all in my head. It was just easier to stay in denial and hope for the best. I realize now that I wasted a lot of time here and that I should have stood up for myself instead of letting everyone tell me how I’m supposed to feel.
This is a very destructive stage and I spent quite a bit of time here too. About a year before my diagnosis I totally lost it. I was sick, in pain and absolutely miserable and no one believed me. I couldn’t confide in anyone without them making me feel completely crazy. I was sad, pissed off and by this point I didn’t care if I lived or died. I had lost all hope and I was stuck. The anger controlled me and the depression started to take over.
Then comes the fear. The day I was diagnosed was bittersweet. I finally had the answer to a question I had for most of my life, but the reality of having a chronic illness with minimal treatment soon sank in. I knew what was wrong, but there wasn’t a lot I could do to make it better and still many people believed that it wasn’t even a real illness. This is one of the stages that you just keep bouncing off of. I don’t think the fear ever really goes away no matter how much you accept it.
This is a beautiful stage. You’re learning how to handle your symptoms and you finally feel like you have some control over this monster. Although the treatment isn’t as effective as you wish it could be you still have hope and a sense of peace that you’re able to finally make things a little better.
I have Fibromyalgia, but it doesn’t define who I am. The peace of acceptance makes life so much easier. The really bad days will always bring up a little anger and fear, but in the end the hope and acceptance will always win. The first time you can look in the mirror and truly say that you love yourself just the way you are, you will officially know that you have accepted being sick.
After all of this there is only one thing left do. Start living your life and although you may lose battles here and there, never let Fibromyalgia win the war.could be you still have hope and a sense of peace that you’ust pisses me off more and morth. Guys