The Painful Embarrassment of IBS: Irritable Bowel Syndrome
You walk doubled over as you head for the nearest public washroom. Your abdominal muscles clench up so tightly that it is impossible to straighten up. Strangers look at you and you try not to notice as the sweat starts to form on your skin and urgency threatens to explode immediately. You begin to worry that you might not make it in time. You hope there won’t be a line up and you hope that this won’t be the time a stranger will find you partially clad and passed out in a washroom floor.
As with fibromyalgia, each person experiences an IBS attack differently. Triggers, symptoms, and experiences are unique to each individual. An attack can strike at any time and it can be one of the most embarrassing and painful situation you will ever experience.
There are three types of IBS; Dominant Constipation IBS, Predominant Diarrhea IBS, and alternating diarrhea and constipation. All are painful, debilitating and confusing. Because everyone’s personal story is different, I can only tell my own.
It is 6:30PM, supper is over and I stand washing dishes at the kitchen sink when suddenly, without warning, I am doubled over as pain sears my abdomen. My muscles are in a vice like grip that prevents me from standing upright as I make my way to the washroom praying I will get there in time. After a few minutes the pain eases and the urge has disappeared. I wash my hands and go back to my dishes and wait for the next bout of pain to begin.
I have food induced Pain Predominant IBS. The name tells it all. The symptom is the painful and urgent need to evacuate NOW. This doesn’t mean evacuation will happen right away because sometimes you can be fooled for hours with the painful urgency coming and going while other times it is immediate.
Once it begins, abdominal pain and cramping is severe with frequent bouts of diarrhea that can end abruptly after one bowel movement or keep on for up to three hours or more. My IBS attacks are relentless and incapacitating causing my adrenalin and body temperature to rise. Fierce pain continues non stop as sweat soaks my body and drips from my face, hair, and ears staining my clothes. The room swims before me and I fight to keep conscious and to stay upright while my abdominal muscles squeeze so tight that it pushes the food from my stomach back up into my esophagus. Bowel muscles push down causing the need to evacuate with a tightening force that threatens to tear tissue while the sphincter muscle closes and prevents relief by forcing the movement backwards. The struggle goes on and I am helpless to do anything but sit there and pray that it will soon be over.
Suddenly, it stops. As quickly as it began the clenching has stopped and the pain is gone. I sit gasping, my heart pounding, and my clothes sticking to my body. Every ounce of energy has been drained from me and flushed away with the pain that only moments before, caused unbelievable distress. I make my way to bed and immediately fall asleep exhausted.
What is IBS
IBS is a chronic functional disorder that affects the large and small intestines causing mild to severe abdominal pain. Like fibromyalgia, the cause of IBS is unknown. One theory is that the peristalsis or natural movement of the bowel is more sensitive to normal sensations causing the bowel muscles to become erratic. Another thought is that it could be caused by allergies to certain foods. No one has been able to prove either theory.
Common symptoms of IBS
Stress induced diarrhea
Negative reactions such as tension, nervousness, agitation, fear, or frustration create a fight of flight response in the body. This negative response affects the nervous system which includes the colon. The colon becomes over stimulated causing erratic functioning of the bowel, setting off painful cramps and diarrhea or worse-painful cramps with constipation that will not move.
Food induced diarrhea
Those who have food related IBS onset should keep a diary of the foods they eat. It is possible that a pattern may begin to form when their IBS attacks are compared to the times certain foods are consumed. The task of finding the offending foods can take months of recording and careful scrutiny. Often, it is not just one food causing the problem but a combination of foods. If you find that a food will bring on an IBS attack one time but not the next, you are most likely looking for a combination of foods, or preservatives. Unfortunately, the trigger is often never found. (The task of finding the reason for IBS attacks is often difficult if you have stress induced and food induced IBS.)
Constipation
Because IBS is a functional disorder, it is thought that constipation occurs when bowel functions fail causing an ongoing dysfunction. The bowel muscles tighten causing peristalsis (the normal movement of the bowel) to stop working. Certain foods, stress, or an injury can cause the normal movement of the bowel to freeze up. It is not unusual with constipation-dominant IBS to go one week to one month without having a bowel movement.
Bowel freeze
Bowel freeze can happen when a person who has fibromyalgia and IBS experiences a shock to their body such as tripping, a fall, or acute stress. When the bowel muscles are shocked, peristalsis stops and it is common in this instance to go several weeks without having a bowel movement. Bowel freeze can affect both diarrhea and constipation IBS.
Spastic Bladder
Many people who have fibromyalgia also have spastic bladder. When the bladder begins to spasm, it causes urgent and/or frequent urination and a burning pain similar to the pain of a urinary infection. Often, when bladder muscles spasm it triggers an IBS attack. When bladder spasms occur, you may be able to avoid the onset of an IBS flare by keeping your bladder as empty as possible.
Feeing full
The feeling of being full after eating only a few bites of food or from drinking a glass of water is caused by an IBS variant called Midgut Motility Disorder. The pooling of old contents of the small intestines causes trapped gas and bloating leaving little room for food.
Incomplete evacuation
All three types of IBS leave a feeling of unfinished evacuation.
Other symptoms of IBS
- gas
- bloating
- inability to pass gas
- difficulty swallowing
- nausea
- heartburn
- belching
- frequent bowel movements (with diarrhea)
- infrequent bowel movements (with constipation)
IBS facts
- IBS is the most common bowel complaint
- IBS usually starts in the late teens or young adulthood but it has been known to strike younger children
- The cause of IBS unknown
- There are no chemical or structural problems to be found in IBS as with other bowel diseases
- There is no known cure for IBS
- When the IBS complaint is constipation related, the condition is called Dominant IBS. When diarrhea is the most common complaint it is called Predominant IBS.
- IBS consists of three types of affects; constipation, diarrhea, or an alternation of the two
- IBS causes erratic functions of the bowels
- Severity of an IBS attack can range from moderately painful to pain so intense it causes the sufferer to feel faint, throw up, or pass out
- IBS sufferers usually have slow digestion and it is common to have a food that you have eaten one day, react with a food you will eat two or three days later
- Symptoms of IBS are not the same in all people and it is possible that the symptoms you have now may change sometime in the future
- 20 percent of all people in the US and Canada have IBS. 70 to 80 percent of them are fibromyalgia patients and, 70 percent of those fibromyalgia patients with IBS are women.
- Only about 10% of IBS sufferers ever seek medical help
Foods to eat if you have Dominant Constipation IBS
It is important to eat only the foods that will help soften stool in hopes of alleviating pain and evacuating as much as possible.
Foods high in magnesium such as broccoli, nuts, squash, okra, soy milk, spinach, tofu, whole grain cereals, barley, whole wheat bread, multi-grain cereals, halibut, scallops, oysters, rockfish. If magnesium rich foods don’t seem to help relieve your problem, consult your doctor to see if magnesium tablets are right for you.
Fruit & veggies. Constipation is usually a result of a low carb diet making the carbs in fruit and veggies essential.
Foods high in soluble fiber containing psyllium such as oatmeal, oat bran, kidney beans, apples, barley, prunes, oat bran, dried beans, dried peas, and flax seed. Many cereals contain adequate amounts of soluble psyllium fiber s well.
Legumes
Ground flaxseed can be added to almost any dish by sprinkling on food after cooking. Flaxseed should be introduced to your diet gradually.
Drink lots of water and fruit juice. Keeping your body hydrated is one of the most important things you can do for your body, mind, and well being. Constipation is often a result of dehydration. Drinking insufficient amounts of water will cause your colon to try to restrict water loss through your stools causing the water to be squeezed out of the colon and sending it back into the body leaving you dehydrated and constipated.
While there are herbal teas used for constipation, they should all be used with caution and only on the advice of a professional. Herbs can be powerful medicine but all too often people tend to abuse them by overuse or using wrong combinations that can result in distress and serious illness. When constipation is your dominant complaint, herbs may start to work in only one part of the intestines . When this happens, someone with IBS could spend hours of excruciating pain with one part of the intestines working against another.
What not to eat if you have Dominant Constipation IBS
Try to limit highly refined foods such as bread, cakes, cookies and other baked goods made with refined white sugar and refined flour.
Fatty foods. Fat causes a more powerful bowel reflex than other types of foods causing muscle contractions causing spasms and possible bowel freeze.
Coffee and other caffeinated beverages cause much the same symptoms as fatty foods.
White rice. White rice can cause constipation and should not be eaten often. If you do eat white rice, eat it with vegetables and drink plenty of water.
- MSG or Monosodium Glutamate causes painful affects to those with IBS. While it might not cause diarrhea in Dominant IBS, it can cause cramping, dizziness, nausea, and other related symptoms that can go on for hours. It is important to know what foods contain MSG and to do that, you must be familiar with it’s many names. Find out more about MSG here. http://www.healthmad.com/Health/MSG.11985
Low or no fiber cereal and prepared foods.
Eliminate all trigger foods such as; red meat, dairy, fried foods, egg yolks, coffee, soda pop, and alcohol – from your diet.
What to eat if you have Predominant Diarrhea IBS
- Try to eat foods high in soluble fiber that help retain water and distend the colon to reduce spasms. Soluble high fiber foods include oatmeal, oat bran, kidney beans, most fruits and veggies, whole grain bread, cereals, and pasta.
- White rice to help bulk up the colon but you must be careful of what you eat with it. Sautéed vegetables, tomato sauce, fish, and steamed or boiled chicken are good choices.
- Bananas contain soluble fiber, help to replace electrolytes lost during bouts of diarrhea, and are great for settling the digestive system
- Lean cuts of chicken and fish are good meat choices
- Peppermint tea is a great herb for muscle spasms. It will sooth the colon and expels gas.
- Ginger tea will help gas that becomes trapped in the colon. Fresh grated ginger is best if it is available.
- Thyme tea is one of my favourites. Thyme benefits the whole digestive system. It sooths the stomach, it is thought to dissipate gas, improves many different intestinal complaints, and will dissolve and removes mucus from the intestinal tract. If you have Fibromyalgia related diarrhea with IBS, thyme tea could help relieve muscle pain too.
- Drinking lots of water is one of the most important things you can do. Each attack of diarrhea causes you to lose precious water and quickly causes dehydration. Your colon will try to preserve water by squeezing it from your bowels to replace it in your organs thus causing cramping and triggering another attack.
What not to eatif you have Predominant Diarrhea IBS
- Eat with moderation and avoid large, heavy meals. Eat 4 or 5 small meals a day instead.
- Avoid fatty foods such as red meat, dairy, fried foods, french fries, and egg yolks that stimulate the colon and trigger spasms
- Avoid coffee and all caffeinated beverages that can also trigger spasms
- Avoid alcohol. Beer and mixed drinks contain carbon or are mixed with other drinks containing carbonation and caffeine. Alcohol can pose another problem to those who have fibromyalgia related allergies or are sensitivities to chemicals.
- Limit your dairy intake, especially milk products that tend to irritate the bowel
- Avoid cereals containing low or no fiber
- Avoid gassy foods like broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower, brussel sprouts, sodas, beans, and turnips
- MSG or Monosodium Glutamate causes painful affects to those with IBS cause cramping, dizziness, diarrhea, nausea, and other related symptoms that can go on for hours. Find out more about MSG here.
- Avoid artificial sweeteners. Artificial sweeteners cause gas, bloating, abdominal cramping and urgent diarrhea in many people who have a healthy colon. Some with IBS can suffer greatly after eating foods containing artificial sweeteners and be unaware that the sweetener was included in the ingredients. Find out how to read grocery labels here. http://www.healthmad.com/Nutrition/Grocery-Label-Ingredients-and-What-They-Mean.28485
While there is no cure for IBS, arming yourself with facts and helpful information can make your experience more manageable. Online IBS forums are a great place to begin.
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Mr Ghaz | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
Great work! Nicely done. That was very informative tips about health-care..Thnx a lot 4 sharing
Glynis Smy | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
My DH has been a sufferer for years, it has improved since we moved to Cyprus, infact it has almost left him alone in 4yrs! We eat non processed, fresh foods and more herbs than ever before. we follow a mediterranean diet, so maybe that has worked for him.
Good informative article with a personal insight.
Debra. | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
I have heard of this and even read some about it but learned much more from this article.What a terrible disease to endure! Thanks for enlightening me on this subject, Darlene. Great write and read.
papaleng | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
first look I thought it was just a simple case of LBM, but your case is much different. a very nice article and so educational.
BC Doan | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
Very comprehensive, educational, and helpful article, Darlene!
Darla Smith | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
A very informative article. Thanks for sharing.
clay hurtubise | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
Thanks for an informative piece. This affects women and men alike, as I can well attest too!
Thanks,
Clay
Darlene McFarlane | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
Thank you everyone for your responses.
Glynis, your hubby is very lucky and I am happy to hear of his success. Eating the proper foods is one of the best things you can do if you have food induced IBS. For many it is a lot harder to get a handle on because they have both food induced and emotional IBS. Eating proper foods does well for me at times but it seems to have a mind of it’s own all too often.
Clay hurtubise. I have known men who have IBS but they are far outnumbered by women in the US and Canada. Research states that other countries are about even.
lindalulu | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
Good article filled with great info.
Drake Harlem | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
While I’ve never been diagnosed with this, I’ve come to suspect I suffer from it after reading into it more recently. The constant need to get in close proximity to a bathroom is what keeps me from leaving the house unless I really need to.
Darlene McFarlane | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
Hi Drake.
Hi Drake, many people live with IBS without ever being diagnosed. I think it’s a good idea to see the doctor to rule out anything more serious like crones, ulcerative colitis, lupus, and a number of other bowel diseases.
I wish you luck and good health.
Darlene
Judy T Lloyd | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
This is the best article yet that I have seen on this. I know the embarrassment too well, a lot of mine started happening after I had surgery for cancer and had radiation. It increased over the years. I wish I knew the foods that trigger mine. Milk products, at least whole milk does a lot of damage. My last surgery for a hernia repair, the doctor discovered that the surgeon who took out my kidney had left a staple in my bowel. So I had that resected. But the IBS still acts jp.
Mary Patricia Bird | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
I’m beginning to think dairy is the problem, but can’t be too sure unless I keep a diary. Worst experience? Being caught in the washroom at Zellers washing my underwear out in the sink. Not a pretty sight.
Darlene McFarlane | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
Judy T Lloyd,
The beginning of my own problem started after I had a section of bowel removed too. Finding the trigger foods is not an easy task and sometimes can’t be found. I have heard that there is a possible link between chemicals and foods combined.
Mary Patricia Bird,
I am so sorry, it must have been beyond embarrassing for you.
I hope you both will find satisfactory ways to deal with your problems or, at least make them a little easier to deal with.
God bless
Judy Sheldon | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
I have a friend and co-worker who had an attack while we were at work. Fortunately we were closing the drug store we worked at when it happened. She had to call her daughter for a change of clothes. I felt so bad for her. She was embarrassed but there was nothing she could do about it. It was not her fault. She resigned.
This may sound strange, but Dr. Duke recommends cooking onions in your food, skin and all to obtain the most quercetin and then just scooping the skins out before serving. Apple skins also contain high levels of quercetin.
Darlene, your article is very comprehensive and well written. It will be a wonderful resource for all who suffer from IBS.
Loving Child | Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
I’ve read other articles on IBS, but never this real. Thanks!
J Carrier | Apr 18, 2009 | Reply
I suffer from IBS and I must say that ytou explained it bang on. It’s quite funny how different things can cause it too, because I never had any issues until I had my first child. And even then, it didn’t hit until months later. There is a very good book for those who do suffer from Food Induced IBS and it’s called Eating For IBS. It has great information and many great recepies. Great job!
Darlene McFarlane | Apr 18, 2009 | Reply
Hi Judy,
Unfortunately accidents such as your friend’s happen more often that anyone knows. The scariest part is being away from home like that when an attack hits. She was lucky she was with friends. I will try your Dr. Duke’s recommendation…anything is worth a try, and will let you know the outcome.
Loving Child,
Thank you. I think more people are beginning to talk openly about IBS. Like fibromyalgia, we learn by trial and error, if we can exchange ideas as some of the readers have here, we might find a clue to make life a little easier.
Hi, J Carrier,
Thank you for recommending the “Eating for IBS” book, I will see if they have it at our Chapters here in town.
Alexa Gates | Apr 18, 2009 | Reply
very informational and easy to understand! Great read I learned a lot today!
B Nelson | Apr 18, 2009 | Reply
Good link and well timed.
My daughter is 14 and has had problems with constipation since she was 2 yrs.. we have has her to many doctors and pretty much have given up hope for an answer or diagnosis. Maybe this is it.. either way the tips for foods are appreciated. Thanks
Mark Gordon Brown | Apr 18, 2009 | Reply
Its terrific to share personal experiences, they are often just as valuable as a doctors advice in terms of offering comfort.
Well written.
Jack Castle | Apr 18, 2009 | Reply
It’s good to feel comfortable typing about this stuff.
CHAN LEE PENG | Apr 21, 2009 | Reply
Wow, my friend, this is helpful and comprehensive! You’ve laid it out very complete to raise the issue, thanks.
Ruby Hawk | Apr 26, 2009 | Reply
I have a niece with this problem. I didn’t understand how really bad it ccan be. Thank you for this information. I’m sure many will find it helpful.
Nicholas Kenney | Apr 28, 2009 | Reply
Bless your heart, Darlene…my heart goes out to all sufferers.
Kimberley W | Apr 28, 2009 | Reply
Thank you so much for putting into words how extreme this illness can be. I am 26 and have been a sufferer since I was about 12. People hear the phrase ‘IBS’ all the time but in my experience have no idea how severe it can be and are often sceptical because it seems so prevalent. People don’t understand why I’m so scared of being stuck away from a ’safe place’ so maybe now I’ll show them this article! Your attacks sound almost identical to mine and that’s the first time I’ve ever heard of anyone with symptoms that match mine so closely, it’s comforting to know it’s not just me.
valli | May 2, 2009 | Reply
Very helpful information.
Karelee | May 19, 2009 | Reply
I know some people with this condition and I feel so bad for them. Thank you for sharing and I have seen their pain and their life is so controlled by this illness. Great write!!
goodselfme | May 27, 2009 | Reply
Your intricate explanation helps me to almost personally understand this condition so much better. Thank you for the education. I wish you improvement, comfort and wellness, dear friend.
jedopi | Jun 24, 2009 | Reply
This was one of the most informative articles that I have ever read concerning IBS. You did a wonderful job explaining this syndrome and everything that can be involved in it.
I myself have suffered from Fibromyalgia for the past ten years and I have had IBS for twice as long. In the beginning I experienced bouts of constipation and then diarrhea, but now I basically have constant constipation.
I am vegetarian so I definitely get enough fiber in my diet, but somehow that still doesn’t help. I drink plenty of water and I even add extra fiber (Benefiber or Metamucil) to the liquids that I drink. I also have to take stool softeners and even laxatives sometimes. I can go up to 2 weeks without having a bowel movement and it is EXTREMELY uncomfortable and painful. When the time finally comes for me to have a bowel movement it is very often accompanied with blood and a lot of straining which causes hemmorhoids and more pain. Life with IBS is definitely not a picnic.
Ravana | Jul 23, 2009 | Reply
Power of the mind over the body always helps. I always picture me being fully functional without IBS, the next day it would get reduced.
ANOTHER POOPER | Aug 8, 2009 | Reply
I’M A 31 YEAR OLD FEMALE AND I ALSO SUFFER DROM IBS. I JUST LEARNED BY SEARCHING THE INTERNET FOR A REASON WHY I HAD TO GO TO THE RESTROOM FAST.IT NEVER WAS THIS BAD GROWING UP.BUT IT SEEMS THE OLDER I GET THE WORSE IT GETS. I WENT ALL THESE YEARS THINKING IT WAS KINDA NORMAL TILL IT STARTED GETTING WORSE.O YEAH AND WHEN MY PERIOD IS DUE IT HITS THEN AS WELL. I HATE THIS SO MUCH IT IS VERY EMBARRASSING. THIS PAST 4TH OF JULY MY FAMILY AND I WENT TO A WATER PARK AND MY STOMACH STARTED CRAMPING AND I HAD TO GO FFAASSTT SO I LEFT THE WATER PARK. THANK GOD MY APT IS ONLY ABOUT 3 MIN FROM THE WATER PARK.AFTER READING THIS I WILL CHANGE MY EATING HABBITS.THERE HAVE BEEN MANY TIMES WHERE I HAD TO FIND A RESTROOM “FFAASSTT”.I HATE THESE POOP ATTACKS!
lindalulu | Aug 15, 2009 | Reply
Great article Darlene. My oldest son suffers from this and has for years. He has many issues with it and suffers a lot. Thank you for the informative article!
linda connors | Sep 3, 2009 | Reply
Have you considered seeing a hypnotherapist in your local area or there is an excellent set of hypnotherapy CDs you can purchase (created by a worldwide well known IBS hypnotherapist expert with 20 years experience). I can email you the details if you wish. The hypnotherapy can help with the pain relief.
After years of suffering with IBS I came across a self help group and there was a section on hypnotherapy and IBS, I used the above set of CDs I mentioned however as there was a lot going on in my life at the time decided to make an appointment face to face with a Hypnotherapist. It’s been now about seven years since I made that appointment and my life has changed so much! My IBS is no longer part of my daily life! I do still have bad days every so often but with stress management am able to reduce the symptoms.
Note: I am not associated with anyway with the above CDs – I just know they have helped many people, myself included!
Burcu Unal | Oct 22, 2009 | Reply
My boyfriend has IBS too and I have read about it but I have never seen such detailed and useful information about it together before. Thanks,