Is There Happiness Behind Pain
Unknowingly we hurt our loved ones, through words or actions that we never intend to do. We never heard any complain; likewise they keep trying to understand us, because they love us more than we ever knew.
Is there happiness behind pain? Have you ever asked yourself if you ever caused pain to your love ones through words or actions? There are times when you become irate that you have raised your voice. There are incidents that you become moody and unintentionally you have ignored or neglected your love ones. These kind of situations we never intent to do, but unknowingly we did. Nobody wants to hurt his or her loved ones anyway, but it happens. Suddenly we feel the guilt, for we never heard them complain or see them cry. That is how love works inside the heart of someone who loves us sincerely. No whys, no ifs, no buts’, yet endure the pain with smile and happiness.
Now let’s spin the wheel and point the arrow towards you. If your loved ones caused you pain unintentionally, what will you do? Will you try to understand the situation or you will do the same thing and hurt them back? Are you going to say sorry if you know that it’s your fault that made them ignore you, or you will ignore them and wait for them to approach you first? Did you ever feel happiness behind the pain caused by your loved ones? If you do, that means you understand why your loved ones never complain each time you hurt them unknowingly.
I am talking about pain caused unintentionally. This kind of pain is beyond our knowledge and oftentimes we only realized after someone opened up his or her mind. No matter how love wants to understand and embrace our fault, we must avoid abusing someone’s heart. Too much pain won’t give any more happiness, but might turn into hatred that we cannot melt no more. So, never let the pain remain in the heart of your loved ones, or else happiness will be gone forever.
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Purnomosidhi | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
I agree with your last sentence: never let the pain remain in the heart of your loved ones, or else happiness will be gone forever.
Safa | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
Wonderful article. thank you
girishpuri | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
Yes as you know rose is always associated with spines , life is like that only
Aroosa Gloomy | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
No I don’t think so.Yes pain is another thing that keeps me happy.it’s kinda weird
Boyka | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
nice
CA Johnson | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
This is very interesting. There are times when I have fights with loved ones and have gotten into shouting matches with them. I have seen it from their point of view and had to make it right. I always feel much better once we work things out.
LoveDoctor | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
A very thought-provoking article. I do agree that sometimes we hurt those whom we love unintentionally with words or through our actions by acting impulsively, now there are instances when someone is hurting you intentionally because there are those who believe that love is pain. I feel that if someone really loves and cares about you they wouldn’t hurt you or cause you pain especially in a love relationship. If the person is a close friend, family member or someone I cared for and they were acting shady, I just ask them straight out if they’re angry at me for some reason and that I’m here if they want to talk about it. Since most people are passive aggressive, they will just tell you that nothing is wrong when in reality something is wrong because they continue to ignore you. I try to do the best I can to resolve the situation or misunderstanding, but if they’re not cooperating, then there’s nothing much that I can do.
Ruby Hawk | Feb 22, 2012 | Reply
We all hurt others unintentionally. When and if I find I have hurt someone, I feel as bad as they do, When others hurt me unintentionally I forgive and forget.
Ixodoi | Feb 23, 2012 | Reply
Everyone hurt other people. They question is how do we behave then we find out we hurt them.
lovinglyoursjuny | Feb 23, 2012 | Reply
@Purnomosidhi,
Thanks
papaleng | Feb 24, 2012 | Reply
I too unknowingly at times caused pains to my love ones,But it is my SOP that to say sorry at once.
lovinglyoursjuny | Feb 24, 2012 | Reply
@ safa and girish,
Thanks for your support guys
Trinidad Castro | Feb 25, 2012 | Reply
We do hurt our loved ones unintentionally but we should be aware that we might hurt them. Sometimes we neglect them and hurt them so bad, but once we kiss or hug them everything turns out right.
paul | Feb 25, 2012 | Reply
It’s true, nice article and you made me feel guilty. (-_-)
Sally | Feb 25, 2012 | Reply
Sorry please :p ..
Nice blog my dear ^_^
maverick | Feb 25, 2012 | Reply
I have observed that your articles are more of emotion and feelings. I conclude you are a sentimental person, a loving one but sensitive. (am i right)
lovinglyoursjuny | Mar 11, 2012 | Reply
thanks for the comment guys