Enlightenment is first cross-over from old you to new you, old-self to New-Self. A different way of being. A different way of thinking. A new way of feeling. Changed attitude. Different responses. Enlightenment is not a minor temporarily change. It is a clear shift. It is seismic. Something like an entirely different “before” and “after”. It is a change in category, for example an easy physical change could be from being fit verses fat. Emotional shift could be being calm with unshakable patience, versus being angry. Mental transition could be being mindful, aware, being in present instead of being lost. Soul cross-over could be being blissful as compared to being miserable.
“Enlightenment is not the good time of life between two sufferings. Enlightenment is the life after the last suffering with a permanent shift of attitude, freeing from anymore future sufferings.”
To be able to be free from miseries, we need to know their source. The main root cause is insecurity of loss. The fear of loss is the main source. We want to avoid the pain which will be caused because of the loss. It is easier for someone to experience this, who went through the experience of loss. The loss of someone or something very dear, the joy of life, the inspiration of living. The loss we are talking here is the permanent irreversible loss, something like death but not death itself which is an ultimate loss, because here life goes on after the loss. Now what to do after the loss? How to deal with it? What are the different possibilities in life from here? It makes sense to see what all options are available and which could be the best one to pick.
One can be quite emotional in these situations and if the loss is sudden and shocking, one can feel completely lost. One can be in tears. One can beat oneself up with I could have done this, I could have done that, why did I not do that, I blew that chance, I wish I would have got another chance etc etc. But just like anything else, the good news is that grief can not last forever as well. One does come back to senses. Flood of emotions recede. Clarity emerges after the turbulent chaos. Dawn breaks after a long dark night. Peace finally takes over the restlessness. And just like the chirping of birds after the storm, mind begins to piece together the broken heart and life. Calm contemplation starts. Tired legs are now rested enough and feels the energy to move. The question arises where to move? What are the paths from the seemingly dead-end of loss?
One way is to try to continue in the same way as things were. So the first path is to find another object of attachment, basically a replacement, trying and hoping to not end up again in loss. Though there are no guarantees, for so many other reasons besides your own mistakes, you can still end up in another painful loss. Another path could be to do something else. Divert your attention, focus, action and time with something entirely different. This second path could be interesting involving exploration, but it can also sort of sound like a give-up. A path of abandonment of original just to avoid the possible same experienced pain. Second path is an unknown path. This might or might not work. What else? Is there something which has the highest possibility of working out to be able to ensure not the same suffering again? Yes, there is a possibility of third path. This path is a path of enlightenment. Enlightenment means the end of suffering. And this realization can only happen by knowing the root cause of suffering. The root cause is the fear of losing and due to that loss, life becoming worse. This path goes through detachment. Detachment is freedom from attachments. As we all want to hold tight at least what we have got in this life. Nobody wants to loose any of the possessions. Therefore this path is the most difficult path. Though this could be the most liberating one and can bring a permanent end to the loop of suffering.