Fear

The definition of fear is an agitation and anxiety cause by the presence of danger, or simple put, being afraid of something or someone. We all suffer from different fears, from our parents or spouses to speaking out in front of people; and these are fears we can conquer. Then there are fears that we create in our mind they come from things that have happened to us or those we love. Even though we create them in our mind, they are still real and we feel fear, some overcome the fear, while others get trapped, and are constantly afraid. That is not how we were born to live and feel, learning to deal with your fear takes time, having someone to speak to about these fears is always helpful. Having a true friend that you can talk with, who won’t think less of you for having these fears is great. Unfortunately, not all of us have that kind of friendship, probably because we are afraid they will think we are foolish and need to get over it. Seeking professional help is your best answer if the fear becomes too intense, or you don’t have a confidant that you are comfortable with. 

A professional therapist or psychiatrist will not judge you; they listen and help you come to conclusions that are right for you, not for them, not for your friends and family; but what is right for YOU! If you are not comfortable with that person, find someone you are comfortable with; that is your right as a patient. As a patient you are entitled to have the care you need with someone you can relate to. It is much easier for many, to speak with someone they don’t know, because there you can let out all your fears, and concerns and not be judged, ridiculed or laughed at. Give it some thought, in the end you may find that outside help is very helpful.

The other fear we suffer is “the fear of the unknown”, going to a job interview or a business gathering with those we do not know, is very frightening. We fear rejection in situations such as this; they won’t hire us, or they won’t like us. How about the fear pregnant women endure waiting for her due date; and the fear her partner feels, wondering what to expect. They are both afraid, of the unknown, they know they will have a baby, but they have so many questions and fears that they don’t know how to voice them. The couple should speak to their doctor, or seek out a Doula, who may know be able to make the unknown, not so scary.

So no matter what, fear is something real, it is a feeling we all experience and it is completely natural; its up to you to learn how to deal with it. Whether you seek professional help, talk to a friend, learn about mediation and other relaxing techniques, handle your fears properly.  Many turn to drugs or alcohol and this makes matters worse, ignoring the fear will not help it go away