Comments on: How to Spot a Pathological Liar

By: TERRY

TERRY — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:31:43 +0000

WOW YOU HAVE A – LOT OF TIMES ON YOUR HA-NDSES!

By: mary ellen

mary ellen — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 00:07:47 +0000

I have been reading your comments and I can relate to many of you. I have been married to a pathological liar for 31 years. I am now finally getting divorced from him. When I first found out about his lies I thought I would stand by him for him to get help It ended up he was lying to the therapist he was going through the motions but he didn’t want help. I through all of this have lost who “I am” the lies drain you. He would make me doubt what I know what to be true so now I am having lots of trouble trusting myself in making decisions. He would like many of the stories i read above make up documentation to support his lies to further drag me into believing him. He had a woman he didn’t know fax me something from the city his dad lived in to make it look like his father did it. He went and had another guy go take a paternity test so he wouldn’t be declared the father , they made him retake it and then it came out he was. He has lied about little things and created scenarios and got me to believe it. Its a horrible feeling to now look back on my life and know that most of it was only a lie. My advice is if you know that who you are with is a pathological liar GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP ASAP!!! They will not change the only thing is hey will get better covering their lies It is a sickness and lots of time socio path accompanies someone who is pathological. They don’t care if they destroy you. They will suck any self respect from you and make you feel like you are worthless and take away the most precious thing the ability to trust your own judgement that is taking away at who you are and your well being. I am now scared to make the change but i know that I need to get out of this start over and not live with someone I cannot trust. This has ripped away from my self esteem and now i need to rediscover myself and find out why i would have stayed with someone who obviously did care or respect me and why i didn’t respect myself and say hey I don’t deserve this I can do better. Please get out they will not get better. At the beg a psychiatrist who he was seeing told me to leave him then and said he will not get better it will only get worse. I didn’t listen to him and I wish I had I found out about 15 years ago and I have been so unhappy in my life. But, now I am taking charge of my life and not taking his crap anymore. He doesn’t deserve me. He always keeps saying he is sorry and has changed but he hasn’t they will not get better So please leave before they destroy you inner being. Good luck!

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 04:54:31 +0000

Run! Run far and run fast. You already know this isn’t going to change. Can you imagine another 20 years of this, let alone 50?

By: emma

emma — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:35:58 +0000

I have a friend that i think is a p lier. She lies about everything. She stands people up all the time. She covers her self with thousands of lies. And she is very minipulative. The sad thing is i really like her as a friend. She once stood me up and told me the reason was someone in her family died!!! and i no for a fact thats not true. when ever she promess me something i no its never going to happen. she lies about where she lives, where she is, who shes dating. when i confornt her she get very mad and defensive. i really like her as a friend.. what should i do

By: maria

maria — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 13:31:15 +0000

I tend to lie very often, i feel very deshonest and I would like to get help. but I can’t aford a Doctor. how can I get help?

By: TMG3

TMG3 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 22:58:39 +0000

The descriptions here fit “compulsive liar” as opposed to the “pathological liar”. Pathological liars are more goal orientated, i.e. lying to get what they desire with little regard of how they achieve this or others are hurt. They are manipulative unlike the “compulsive liar” who will just lie about anything and everything.

By: Sally Jones

Sally Jones — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 03:48:32 +0000

It’s hard to get beyond the first line of your article, which contains such an egregious spelling error.

By: linda eastwood

linda eastwood — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 15:48:42 +0000

I have recently discovered that a friend i have had for 2 years has been lying to me. These are not little white lies but a complete fabrication of her whole history even her name is a lie. I am beginning to realise that almost every conversation we have had is based on lies and deceit. This has left me feeling very betrayed and angry with her. I do think friendship is based on trust and without this i dont think i can have her in my life or near my children. She is in reality a stranger to me.

By: Sonya Owens

Sonya Owens — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 18:01:58 +0000

I’m glad you posted this. My Mother constantly lies about stupid things. Now I know why.

By: lady716

lady716 — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 15:57:04 +0000

Oh my God, I’m sorry to read your story I’m in a similar situation now I love this guy and he told me everything I wanted to here I have childeren I been there for this man financially and i’m currenly almost broke he promise that he will give my money back, but i no longer trust any thing that he says. Still I hope for the best with him and pray that maybe none of this is true I know this is why im in the situation im in now is because I overlook so much in the beginning.