Not all cases of abuse are easy to tell but there are signs that can be seen when someone you love or yourself are in an abusive relationship. If you do find yourself in an abusive relationship do not be afraid to ask for help.
Not all cases of abuse are easy to tell but there are signs that can be seen when someone you love or yourself are in an abusive relationship . If you do find yourself in an abusive relationship do not be afraid to ask for help. There is no reason for any woman or man to be abused by a loved one. If you know a family member or friend that is in an abusive relationship help them seek help to get out. Abuse is a dangerous thing and should never be pushed aside as a “one time deal”. Take it from someone who knows.
One clear cut sign is unexplained bruising. They may try to hide it behind layers of clothes , excessive make-up , dark glasses or any other number of methods. Always be aware of this. This is a clear sign of danger for them. In most cases they do not want anyone to know and they will be resistant to help. Be there for them anyway. What would you want someone to do for you?
Excessive jealousy or possessiveness is another sign of abuse. If someone you love is in a relationship where they always have to check in or be checked on , chances are it is an abusive relationship. This in itself is abuse. Each person born on this Earth has the God given right to be free from mental anguish such as jealousy.
If your friend or or family member is involved with someone and they are always afraid to speak to their significant other , this is a sign of abuse. Why would they be afraid to speak with them about anything? Are they afraid of the result? are they afraid of being hit? slapped? screamed at? Whatever the case may be it is abuse no matter what. A person should feel safe a secure within a relationship to discuss whatever is on their mind without fear of recourse.
When or if there comes a point that you notice your friend or family member is not calling or coming around anymore there is cause for investigation. When they do finally come around , watch their actions. If they are jumpy , rushed , worried and constantly having to check in , this is abuse. abusers will often try to seclude their spouse from all family and friend circles a little at a time. Be careful in approaching this situation. From experience I can tell you that once it reaches this point it is a very volatile and dangerous situation, in most cases.
If your friend or family member’s spouse is openly demeaning and verbally abusive you can only imagine what goes on behind closed doors. Stay as close to that person as possible and urge them to get out of that relationship as soon as possible. This is emotional and verbal abuse. I n most cases the abuser moves from this abuse into physical abuse in just a small amount of time.
If your friend or family member is always being blamed by their spouse for their abusive actions red flags should be raised. Abusers don’t like to take responsibility for their actions. It is easier for them to blame their spouse. Let me be the first to say, no matter what any person says or does in a relationship, there is no need for abuse. That being said , How can your friend or family member be responsible for the actions of another?
Last but not least on the MAJOR signs of abuse is financial abuse. When your friend or family member has no control over their own finances and never has any of their own money they are in an abusive relationship. Maybe it is not physical , but abuse is abuse and no person should be subjected to it. Once the abusive spouse has total control over all the money he/she then will begin to be abusive in other ways. It is a sure bet.