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The Narcissist, Will He be Back? How Long Will It Take?

In case you are wondering if your narcissist wil be back if you are unable to severe heartly ties with the reckless, devious character then you may just be in luck( or misluck) because narcissist always come back when they run out of narcissistic supplies or realise that other supplies are not as accomodating and ego boosting as yours. What a Life!!!!!!

                               He is back: The Narcissist and patience

 

               Patience is greatest virtue a hunter has to possess in order to pounce upon and kill his prey.  Any organism that has predatory skills has to cultivate the virtue of endurance and staying power until the right time is available.  A clever, genuine Sociopath will wait years before he pounces on his victim in order to ensure that he does not make a mistake. 

            Do not underestimate the ability of the narcissist to be patient. He does not like to rush things. He wants to be entirely in control when the time comes. He does not want to be in a situation where he is vulnerable.   He wants to know that all the cards will be on his side. He will play it cool until he knows that you are right where he wants you and then he will throw out his fishing line and reel you in for the feast that he has been planning for you.  

        Narcissist and sociopaths are the most patient individuals alive and like any other predator they will wait as long as it takes because they do not want to make a mistake. They will be placid and lay back until they know the time is right. Like wolves, they will lay low in the shadows, planning a strategic attack on their innocent unsuspecting victims. Sometimes the prey is aware of the predator but has this confidence that they will be able to elude the kill, only to find themselves back on the slaughter board. Do not think that he has decided to let you live your life. Predators will never give their prey the ability to go on without their interference.

                     He will watch the woman of his desire and try to pinpoint her weaknesses. He will seek out information about her. He will watch her movements, likes and dislikes before he approaches her. A narcissist will study what he thinks women want and will give them exactly what they want. It does not matter how long it takes him to learn your habits, desires and what your ideal partner is.

             The narcissist will haste a relationship is when he wants to consummate it for fear you will rescind before he has hooked you. When he is ascertain that you are fond of him, then he will take of his sheep clothing and the wolf will step out with fangs and a ferocious attitude.

            By that time you are already too deep to extract yourself. This if further cemented if you are married and or have children.  It will be more difficult to sever ties with the narcissist since you have a legal or biological connection him. 

       Do not underestimate the narcissist. He will want to come back and wait until the most convenient time to pop up back. Some narcissist depending on how harrowing and bitter your break up was will wait until they think you have gotten over their misdemeanor and atrocities. They will return without offering an apology or explanation. They will search you out and when they find you. They will devour and leave you wounded again.

         The narcissist will withdraw to the shadows and resurface when the time is right. When he is assured that you have been healed. He will come back when he thinks that you are just on the edge of getting over him. If it takes him several months or several years, he will come back to get the thrill he wants. The thrill of conquering, controlling and annihilating your sense of self and personal opinion of your own worth. If his narcissistic supplies runs out, rest assure, he will be knocking at your door but do not let that man back in.

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  1. Thanks for post

  2. Excellent article with great tips for women. It’s all about control and hooking you in. Interesting. Get rid of them is the best thing you can do.

  3. Excellent Crystal! I know someone like that. :)

  4. great post

  5. A good analysis. You have really hit the nail on the head.

  6. Good one!

  7. Oh yeah… the last Narcissistic Sociopath I knew waited 27 years to hunt me down for a kill… again

  8. I find it hard that the narcpsycho would want anything to do with someone who freaked out on them.I harassed mine for a year and finally stopped when I figured he was probably enjoying the attention. Im never going to contact him again but should I be concerned he will try to contact me? I shredded him like cheese and pointed out all his shortcomings etc. I bad mouthed him to everyone and could have ruined his career I don;t think he will contact me ever again! He\’s scared of me or is he?

  9. I would think that I would like to hear from my narcississit on a friendship level after all the love we shared and have been thru. But wait,,,,narcissists dont feel, right? Ya I forgot about that. Well now that I am reeling from his loss I want to be well and over with him before he contacts me again. He was my first love and contacted me after 27 years. What a rollercoaster ride that was. I hate to think he woud try and do this to me again. Such a sorry sap.

  10. I dont think the narc will EVER come back to you at anytime. i agree with what you have written mostly but not this point. I was with my ex narc for 8 yrs. He had been seeing his affair for 4 yrs of our relatiionship. He is with her now, he kept us both on the go and on a tring..only she didnt notice that, i guess she was too hooked like me. Im 53 so is he, you would think I would know better! I am still dealing with all the pain, lies, after just over a year of being apart. I also harrassed my ex narc, he made it quite clear we were over, incidentally i was attractive and talented, he was not attractive, but oozed charisma and charm, his lover too found him this way from the emails i found. She is a foreigner in the UK, no parents in UK, lost her dad, no friends as such and basicly isolated….no-one to turn to only him. I do genuinely feel sorry for what she is going to \\\\\\\’get\\\\\\\’ from him. From reading her emails to him she is trusting, sweet, caring, honest, sympathetic and both talented and intelligent. I hope she sees through him soon. No my narc will not be back, this woman has all the qualities and patience in the world.

  11. I can only hope that my Ex-Narc will not return. I ended our 4 yr relationship about 7 months ago, he would contact me at least once a month, via text or email, and a couple of times we talked about getting back together after is divorce was final. Then he learned I had gone out with friends, and his possessive jealousy kicked into HIGH gear. He sent me an email stating that it was OVER, and that he NEVER wanted to speak to me again, and that “I had my fun and ended our reltaionship months ago, and now it was HIS turn, he was ending it”. I wondered ending what??? We hadn’t seen each other in months, there was nothing to END!!! My feelings are in true Narcissistic form he couldn’t handle being the “dumpee” so he had to be the “dumper”. Now that his ego is satisfied I can only hope he moves on as he claims he is planning to do and he will LEAVE me alone. I do have some concerns though as when we were a couple and I thought alllll was good, he did follow me and check up on me, and made threats that “there was nowhere I could hide, he would ALWAYS find me”. I hope he has a new supply source and she is enjoying his controlling/manipulative/narcissistic personality. So, I appreciate this article and the information. It made me understand that my Ex-Narc could show up again when I least likely expect it. UGH!! Thanks again for the information.

  12. I was with my ex for 10 yrs… After 4 yrs I was in therapy as I thought I was going mad but learnt that I had become Co-dependant! A few yrs into therapy she said he was a narcissist.. I never heard of it! Through our 10 yrs, we did have some good times, thats true but I honestly cant remember too many due to the agonising pain I suffered as well as my son.. later our daughter that we had together (premature).. really i had her alone but he was there!
    I found strange & terrifying occurances happened.. dangerous ones & it seemed to always come after I left him “abandoned him” or said something obviously demorilising to him! Things like.. my new neighbor who was in the same industry of work as him.. after an argument with my ex would call a limo to go out for dinner.. drink spiked & then I was raped! The police were called & i was taken to my ex’s home for security.. he did nothing but blame me, demoralised me & made me sleep on the bare floor with no blanket in winter. Next morning I had to walk for an hr to pick my son up from his friends place looking like total hell. He refused to drive me or help (my car was at my home around the corner but too scared to go home alone). Later on I found out that my ex showed up at my neighbors that night before the police arrived & handed him wat was thought to be money!! ). I left him again & we go for lunch in the mountains.. was totaly demoralising me.. getting off that other men were watching him touch me in discusting manner as in full public view.. I put him down then he takes me to a cliff & pulls my pants down for sex.. i told him no & stop etc.. a car was coming & he pushed me to go off the cliff! He stood there & laughed.. said I slipped! When ever we went out for an evening (hardly ever) he would let me get to enjoyment stage then we had to leave or he would go to the loo & vanish.. I would look for him & hed be out front with another woman.. one time I slapped him across the facve & he left.. made me walk home which was a 7 hr walk.. in the freezing cold! The making me walk home happened all the time.. funnily coming home from the rock pools we had a row because he always gropped me ( boobs etc infront the kids) he knows how I dissaprove of that wen the kids were there.. but as I sat waiting for him to come past.. he never did.. but I did get a black mafia like car come harrass me.. thought I was going to get murdered.. my ex was always in mind wen these things happened. he always started an argument… followed by many lies to not see me.. I would then find out he was out with another woman. I always felt watched as I do now even & he seemed to know all my moves & if I had a friend there he would automaticly turn up & bassicly end that friendship.. like how did he always know! I caught him out front in the dark.. hiding / stalking me i guess & another day he was spose to be at work & my daughter & I went to the shop only to find him hiding behind my neighbors car!
    I could never end the relationship.. was a horrible unhappy 10 yrs & 4 yrs therapy for me while in the relationship. I have been away for 1 1/2 yrs & I met the most wonderfull man in the world.. well as far away as I lived from my ex now.. he managed to destroy that.. would not let me go.. still believed we werte together no matter how many times I told him it was over, i didnt need or want him, i hate him.. he would not let me go. The last few times (4 maybe) he has driven here to see his daughter… he has got more violent with me & last time hit me twice, hurt my leg somehow & held a knife to me as well as stabbing himself (un hurt tho i think) with my kitchen knife (not the first time with the knife).. Also in mid 07 I was diagnosed with cancer.. he disrespected me & my emotions / body etc as he always did but it was worse now.. after major surgery, then having 6 mths chemo.. single mum on my own.. he pretended to want to help me after treatment.. would make me pack up my kids & drive there.. then did nothing but try get me drinking sometimes otherwise would just sexualy abuse me all night as he always did.. but I was sick, tired, exhausted, nautious.. he never takes no for no.. always says no means yes!! He also always says its his JOB to make me sad, unhappy, angry! He was a man of many women & everything was always a lie.. no matter how small.

    The sexual abuse I talk about is not wanting it for what ever reason & being constantly woken up all night long.. night after night with either him penetrating me or his fingers while he masterbated.. then he would say.. i was wanting it yet i said to stop.. ur sick. Theres one thing to be woken up mutualy & making luv through the night but this was never mutual.. it was sly.. wen i was asleep & had said no. He always made me feel guilty… for everything.. was always my fault!

    All his enjoyment come from making me unhappy, sick & dependant on him!

    He was nothing but a sexual abuser, emotional abuser, mental abuser & later in the relationship slowly releasing his physical abuse on me getting more violent each time! The first time he hit me was wen i was pregnant with our daughter ( didnt know) had been bitten nastily on the nhose by a spider that made me unwell.. I recently went for a holiday to see my parents.. while i was gone, felt things were all wrong. A few weeks or so after coming home I found the truth in his bills, how much contact… constant contact he had with a work associate. I confronted him about it.. he yelled, screamed at me in the street (never saw that b4) calling me mental, insane & denied it all even tho I had the proof. I walked off to get my things & leave.. he flew behind me grabbed me and lterally threw me with one hand.. he jumpped on me & punched me in the nose.. I left poring with blood & didnt hear from him for 3 wks.

    Anyone have an idea of wat my outcome is likely to be.. from this? Like I said this is just a short version of 10 long horrible yrs..

    There is much more to my horrible experience & I live in fear everyday.. every night.. I cant sleep, get an over whelming sence of fear just taking the bin out the front. I see him as a dark figure just out the blue while in bed, going into a different room.. he seems to apear in my eyes.. very frightening indeed. I know its not over & I feel that I feel his precence.. 7 weeks since he last came & showed his violence. The longest time of no contact from him.. but i feel he is waitimg for me to drop my guard.. i feel he is spying on me weather him or he has someone doing it.. but i feel he will pop up wen my guard is down.. I feel in danger… WILL I ever rest?? Will I survive??

  13. I was with my ex for 10 yrs… After 4 yrs I was in therapy as I thought I was going mad but learnt that I had become Co-dependant! A few yrs into therapy she said he was a narcissist.. I never heard of it! Through our 10 yrs, we did have some good times, thats true but I honestly cant remember too many due to the agonising pain I suffered as well as my son.. later our daughter that we had together (premature).. really i had her alone but he was there!
    I found strange & terrifying occurances happened.. dangerous ones & it seemed to always come after I left him \”abandoned him\” or said something obviously demorilising to him! Things like.. my new neighbor who was in the same industry of work as him.. after an argument with my ex would call a limo to go out for dinner.. drink spiked & then I was raped! The police were called & i was taken to my ex\’s home for security.. he did nothing but blame me, demoralised me & made me sleep on the bare floor with no blanket in winter. Next morning I had to walk for an hr to pick my son up from his friends place looking like total hell. He refused to drive me or help (my car was at my home around the corner but too scared to go home alone). Later on I found out that my ex showed up at my neighbors that night before the police arrived & handed him wat was thought to be money!! ). I left him again & we go for lunch in the mountains.. was totaly demoralising me.. getting off that other men were watching him touch me in discusting manner as in full public view.. I put him down then he takes me to a cliff & pulls my pants down for sex.. i told him no & stop etc.. a car was coming & he pushed me to go off the cliff! He stood there & laughed.. said I slipped! When ever we went out for an evening (hardly ever) he would let me get to enjoyment stage then we had to leave or he would go to the loo & vanish.. I would look for him & hed be out front with another woman.. one time I slapped him across the facve & he left.. made me walk home which was a 7 hr walk.. in the freezing cold! The making me walk home happened all the time.. funnily coming home from the rock pools we had a row because he always gropped me ( boobs etc infront the kids) he knows how I dissaprove of that wen the kids were there.. but as I sat waiting for him to come past.. he never did.. but I did get a black mafia like car come harrass me.. thought I was going to get murdered.. my ex was always in mind wen these things happened. he always started an argument… followed by many lies to not see me.. I would then find out he was out with another woman. I always felt watched as I do now even & he seemed to know all my moves & if I had a friend there he would automaticly turn up & bassicly end that friendship.. like how did he always know! I caught him out front in the dark.. hiding / stalking me i guess & another day he was spose to be at work & my daughter & I went to the shop only to find him hiding behind my neighbors car!
    I could never end the relationship.. was a horrible unhappy 10 yrs & 4 yrs therapy for me while in the relationship. I have been away for 1 1/2 yrs & I met the most wonderfull man in the world.. well as far away as I lived from my ex now.. he managed to destroy that.. would not let me go.. still believed we werte together no matter how many times I told him it was over, i didnt need or want him, i hate him.. he would not let me go. The last few times (4 maybe) he has driven here to see his daughter… he has got more violent with me & last time hit me twice, hurt my leg somehow & held a knife to me as well as stabbing himself (un hurt tho i think) with my kitchen knife (not the first time with the knife).. Also in mid 07 I was diagnosed with cancer.. he disrespected me & my emotions / body etc as he always did but it was worse now.. after major surgery, then having 6 mths chemo.. single mum on my own.. he pretended to want to help me after treatment.. would make me pack up my kids & drive there.. then did nothing but try get me drinking sometimes otherwise would just sexualy abuse me all night as he always did.. but I was sick, tired, exhausted, nautious.. he never takes no for no.. always says no means yes!! He also always says its his JOB to make me sad, unhappy, angry! He was a man of many women & everything was always a lie.. no matter how small.

    The sexual abuse I talk about is not wanting it for what ever reason & being constantly woken up all night long.. night after night with either him penetrating me or his fingers while he masterbated.. then he would say.. i was wanting it yet i said to stop.. ur sick. Theres one thing to be woken up mutualy & making luv through the night but this was never mutual.. it was sly.. wen i was asleep & had said no. He always made me feel guilty… for everything.. was always my fault!

    All his enjoyment come from making me unhappy, sick & dependant on him!

    He was nothing but a sexual abuser, emotional abuser, mental abuser & later in the relationship slowly releasing his physical abuse on me getting more violent each time! The first time he hit me was wen i was pregnant with our daughter ( didnt know) had been bitten nastily on the nhose by a spider that made me unwell.. I recently went for a holiday to see my parents.. while i was gone, felt things were all wrong. A few weeks or so after coming home I found the truth in his bills, how much contact… constant contact he had with a work associate. I confronted him about it.. he yelled, screamed at me in the street (never saw that b4) calling me mental, insane & denied it all even tho I had the proof. I walked off to get my things & leave.. he flew behind me grabbed me and lterally threw me with one hand.. he jumpped on me & punched me in the nose.. I left poring with blood & didnt hear from him for 3 wks.

    Anyone have an idea of wat my outcome is likely to be.. from this? Like I said this is just a short version of 10 long horrible yrs..

    There is much more to my horrible experience & I live in fear everyday.. every night.. I cant sleep, get an over whelming sence of fear just taking the bin out the front. I see him as a dark figure just out the blue while in bed, going into a different room.. he seems to apear in my eyes.. very frightening indeed. I know its not over & I feel that I feel his precence.. 7 weeks since he last came & showed his violence. The longest time of no contact from him.. but i feel he is waitimg for me to drop my guard.. i feel he is spying on me weather him or he has someone doing it.. but i feel he will pop up wen my guard is down.. I feel in danger… WILL I ever rest?? Will I survive??

  14. This is quite deep…

  15. I date a Narc for 3 years….how he seems to hold his professional life together is in by any means comparassin to his personal one with me!! he is a stalker, grandoise and has such sense of entitlement…I he would drag me down just to keep himself built up…. i am happy he is gone but worry that he will be back as he always does…he shows up just when im moving forward and doing well…. i am so angy and bitter that a man of his standing can have such sick narc ways but what gets me is these folks know right from wrong and some are very successful…so why do they feel compelled to hurt others???

  16. hi after 5 years i have been treated with such disregard, disrespect, the last time we split up. after 4 months of getting over the narcissist. therapy very low self asteem. headaches. i then managed to pick myself up met someone else. he then decides i was the love of his life. so i went back. god only knows why. then he went to therapy. it lasted for 6 weeks then he stopped saying there no point there nothing wrong with me.. we lasted another 4 months of this controling mind. i also have 2 children amoungst the chaos and my own business. i have now finished with him. he then did the same back to me. its been five weeks now so the healing is started. going back to my therapist.. hopefully a bright future.. i am very exhausted

  17. teresa. the healing has begun but everytime you let this man back into your life. you relapse. when i spoke back to the narcissist a year laer. i was elated and then guess what he switched on me again. i was hurt and i cried for like an hour but then i got over the hurt and decided once and for all that this man was not good for me and i deserved anything that i get from him because i keep running back to him, hoping he is coming back and prayying for a second chance for the honeymoon relationship or rather non relationship we had at the inception. am glad that you are tired because it is a good sign often it is the begining of your healing. the minute you feel overworked and fatigued. you will work harder to maintain your exuberance. happiness and health. hope my response helped

  18. i was with a narc for a total of 8 years . 2 years the first time then we split up and the most recent 6 years. i have 2 children with this man. the first time he treated me like crap . after two years i thought maybe he had changed. i was wrong, the verbal abuse was brutal . i held my own though. i have a no nonsense type of attitude, it hurt me but i would surppress it and hit him with insults. after awhile i discovered he all of a sudden was moving out . well it didn’t take long for me to find out why, he met a new source. old her all my business some was lies. and she was a married woman. him moving out didn’t bother me but him moving on with another woman is like my cryptonite. he knows this now, i begged and pleaded for him to come back, his had no emotions and acts like i’m a stranger off the street. him and his lover called me harassing me one day. i was totall shocked that he could be so hateful and mean. i changed my number and called the cops on both of them . he keeps calling my family house about trivial things and telling them for me to call him because “we need to talk” crap. i’m afraid to call him or face him for fear of ridicule. i recently “confronted” him in an email sending him information about his disorder and letting him know i did nothing wrong. i think maybe i shouldn’t have . he probably thinks this is a sign i still want him. deep down i do i have to fight the urge to call him everyday. i always hope he will come around and say he is sorry and want to work things out . but then i think get real look at the situation. i don’t think he will ever come back his new source is “perfect”. she has a decent job, willing to give him money out her husband’s account for their kids (smh), and a nice suv. she emails him job to improve himself and i know he likes these things . she is really sucked in. he will never come back i know i should be happy but i’m not .

  19. Did ur ex ever contact u by any chance? I’m
    in a similar situation now x

  20. HAHA. OH YES. I WAS CYBERSTALKED AND once via phone…

  21. i too have been in a similar situation.. i’ve been with my ex for nearly 6 years.. we have a 2 year old together. i always knew something wasn’t right.. he would beat me with his words and as soon as i would pack or leave, he’d come around and tell me the words i wanted to hear..This is the first time i left for good. I went through hell trying to move on from this man and each time i’d see him when we’d alternate with my son, he’d act distant as if i was a stranger in the street. Two weeks after he noticed that i was doing good without him, he tries to sweet talk me into having dinner. I didn’t do it but the next few days we did kiss. I felt so stupid for relapsing. I did so well. I packed all my belongings and anyone who has done this knows the stress from moving from one house hold to another..

    I have been out of his parents place for nearly 2 months now. It has been a roller coaster. He swings from being emotionally distant because I don’t want to give him affection.. to being very close.. We also had sex nearly 3 weeks ago because he said all the things i wanted to hear..

    And now he once again acts like i’m a stranger when he sees me.

    It makes me sick that me and this man shared intimacy not too long ago and now i’m just a piece of *hit to him and he can care less.. I want to move on but i am trapped with the emotions from the honeymoon phase.. Or trapped with the emotions I had when he’d be very charming after he would verbally abuse me..

    I am 27 and I am told each day that at least i am still young and i have alot of ahead of me. I have my degree but I am not motivated to do much. I was a stay at home for nearly a year and a half.. I relied on this man so much. I became co-dependent. I didn’t want to do anything but always be with him.. This man was such a big charmer that I caught him twice being a flirt at work. Now that i think about it, he never felt bad for what he did when he was confronted about it. It turned back on me for being jealous and “Crazy.”

    I hate my emotions because this is the only thing that keeps me from moving on.. Then i get even more sad when I know he’s going to want to find another “source of supply” to feed into his sick self.

    I tried so hard to make things work. Each time we’d split, he’d agreed to couples therapy and angermanagement. HE’d go a few times then bail.

    Finally after being apart for so long. He did go to anger management only because he thought i’d get back with him..
    I told him this is not enough for us to get back. He needs to get individual help.. We tried couples before and it didn’t really work.. He has some REALLY deep issues…

    It makes me so sick that I can’t function. I have depression and I can’t enjoy the time i do have my son. He sees mommy cry and i hate it. But i know this is the best sacrifice i made in my life. I didn’t want him to see daddy treat mommy like s*it anymore.. I want him to be a prince charming man when he grows up and treat women with respect..

    I used to pray to god for change because i know god can do miracles if you put all your trust in him. I am starting to realize that this is a test from God .. to make me strong and be the woman i used to be, outgoing, independent, strong, and very loving.. I am completely opposite because I have been so co-dependent on this loser. I am weak. I can’t function. I can’t go to work without feeling sick to my stomach because I also have PTS from the days he would flirt with women at work. I work at a school setting and he works at an after school program. So each time I am around a school setting, I feel so sick to my stomach.. He is probably out there feeding his sick tank with his charm and trying to get attention from all the really young girls that he works with (19-21)..

    It makes me sad that I let him consume my whole day because I can’t get over this bastard. Deep down, he does have a good heart but doesn’t know anything about relationships because he’s never been in one except with me. He needs God in his life.

  22. i too have been in a similar situation.. i\\\\\\\’ve been with my ex for nearly 6 years.. we have a 2 year old together. i always knew something wasn\\\\\\\’t right.. he would beat me with his words and as soon as i would pack or leave, he\\\\\\\’d come around and tell me the words i wanted to hear..This is the first time i left for good. I went through hell trying to move on from this man and each time i\\\\\\\’d see him when we\\\\\\\’d alternate with my son, he\\\\\\\’d act distant as if i was a stranger in the street. Two weeks after he noticed that i was doing good without him, he tries to sweet talk me into having dinner. I didn\\\\\\\’t do it but the next few days we did kiss. I felt so stupid for relapsing. I did so well. I packed all my belongings and anyone who has done this knows the stress from moving from one house hold to another..

    I have been out of his parents place for nearly 2 months now. It has been a roller coaster. He swings from being emotionally distant because I don\\\\\\\’t want to give him affection.. to being very close.. We also had sex nearly 3 weeks ago because he said all the things i wanted to hear..

    And now he once again acts like i\\\\\\\’m a stranger when he sees me.

    It makes me sick that me and this man shared intimacy not too long ago and now i\\\\\\\’m just a piece of *hit to him and he can care less.. I want to move on but i am trapped with the emotions from the honeymoon phase.. Or trapped with the emotions I had when he\\\\\\\’d be very charming after he would verbally abuse me..

    I am 27 and I am told each day that at least i am still young and i have alot of ahead of me. I have my degree but I am not motivated to do much. I was a stay at home for nearly a year and a half.. I relied on this man so much. I became co-dependent. I didn\\\\\\\’t want to do anything but always be with him.. This man was such a big charmer that I caught him twice being a flirt at work. Now that i think about it, he never felt bad for what he did when he was confronted about it. It turned back on me for being jealous and \\\\\\\”Crazy.\\\\\\\”

    I hate my emotions because this is the only thing that keeps me from moving on.. Then i get even more sad when I know he\\\\\\\’s going to want to find another \\\\\\\”source of supply\\\\\\\” to feed into his sick self.

    I tried so hard to make things work. Each time we\\\\\\\’d split, he\\\\\\\’d agreed to couples therapy and angermanagement. HE\\\\\\\’d go a few times then bail.

    Finally after being apart for so long. He did go to anger management only because he thought i\\\\\\\’d get back with him..
    I told him this is not enough for us to get back. He needs to get individual help.. We tried couples before and it didn\\\\\\\’t really work.. He has some REALLY deep issues…

    It makes me so sick that I can\\\\\\\’t function. I have depression and I can\\\\\\\’t enjoy the time i do have my son. He sees mommy cry and i hate it. But i know this is the best sacrifice i made in my life. I didn\\\\\\\’t want him to see daddy treat mommy like s*it anymore.. I want him to be a prince charming man when he grows up and treat women with respect..

    I used to pray to god for change because i know god can do miracles if you put all your trust in him. I am starting to realize that this is a test from God .. to make me strong and be the woman i used to be, outgoing, independent, strong, and very loving.. I am completely opposite because I have been so co-dependent on this loser. I am weak. I can\\\\\\\’t function. I can\\\\\\\’t go to work without feeling sick to my stomach because I also have PTS from the days he would flirt with women at work. I work at a school setting and he works at an after school program. So each time I am around a school setting, I feel so sick to my stomach.. He is probably out there feeding his sick tank with his charm and trying to get attention from all the really young girls that he works with (19-21)..

    It makes me sad that I let him consume my whole day because I can\\\\\\\’t get over this bastard. Deep down, he does have a good heart but doesn\\\\\\\’t know anything about relationships because he\\\\\\\’s never been in one except with me. He needs God in his life.

  23. I’ve been reading a lot of these posts on different sites and there seems to be a lot of the same personality traits in Sociapths and Narcissist people. I’m a 35 year old female who just kicked my 28 year old bf out of the house after 3 years. Before I met him, I was by myself for 5 years after getting out of a marriage to someone who cheated on me. In that 5 years alone, I became deeper in my Christian Faith and was learning to love myself by doing stuff for friends and family, by keeping up with my own business and working out. I’ve always been very independent and very attractive by taking care of myself. After being alone for 5 years, I was beginning to feel very weak for a man’s affection. I had been on dates here and there, but never really had a spark with anyone until I met this 28 year old attractive male. He seemed very passive and very charming. I liked the fact that he was so passive and that is what drew me towards him. After being hurt so badly in my marriage, it was very hard for me to trust anyone and I believe he knew that by reading me for a bit. He lied to me about having money in the beginning and said he was a day trader at home with his Father and said he only lived at home because he didn’t want to leave his Dad alone in such a big house. Really it was him just mooching off of his Dad and being lazy. But, I fell for it thinking that was sweet of him to be so close to his family. He knew that I was saving myself for marriage again and played like he had only been in long term relationships himself, only for me to find out that he really did have many other experiences with girls. He lied to me about even having a car, he said his was wrecked and never got around to buying another one because he thought of it as a waste of money. I bought into that thinking he was simple, really he was just cheap and lazy. This man after only 5 months of dating somehow made it into my house and before you know it, I was living with him against my Christian beliefs. The whole time he lived with me he never lifted a finger. I would leave to go to work and he would be home surfing porn and dating sites. I would confront him and he would manipulate the whole fight. If we fought he would turn on the charm and have sex with me because he knew affection was my weakness. More time went on and I kept sweeping things under the rug that were red flags. As the relationship went on he became bored in bed and would use sex to control me. He than said that we should be more open in the bedroom and started having me practice deviant sexual behaviors on him. He would make me shove things in his anus and made me get a fake penis so he could have oral sex with it. There were times he would even swallow his own sperm and would want to dress up in my lingerie. He brought these sexual practices on his little by little with me. If I said I didn’t feel comfortable, he would say..”You’re right, let’s just forget about it.” Than he would withhold sex from me. There were times I would take a nap and he would be in another room with the door open just masturbating to women putting things up men’s butts. I was loosing myself and felt myself going into a deep depression trying to please him and making it right. Cooking and cleaning for him all the time…. I was hopeful that this man would change and that he only had issues from his family and they could be cleared up with time. As we lived together, I helped him to start his own business. Every weekend I would be out there helping him at events after working a long week myself. He would borrow my car and never maintenance it or put gas in it. He would only pay for food and electric and never offer to take me anywhere or help around the house. He felt like if his name wasn’t on the house, he shouldn’t have to help. When he got his cell phone hooked up, I was starting to find text messages from women and would get upset. So than he would manipulate that and hide his phone which drove me nuts. when I would get jealous about it, it was almost like he enjoyed it and it was feeding his ego. He would receive e-mails from other women saying that they couldn’t go out with him because they had boyfriends. I tried kicking him out many times and he would not leave. He would act violent and than just start punching things. Finally, our fights escalted to him pushing me, grabbing me, choking me and even punching me in the legs. The first 8 months of our relationship seemed so blissful. He was so attentive, charming and always there. He was even going to church and would say that he couldn’t wait to spend the rest of his life with me. We would cook together, workout together and watch movies. It felt like our world was peaceful. Than, the second I put demands on him and expecting something back, he started to turn into the devil. I was ashamed of myself, that I would even allow this in my home. Now that he is gone only after two weeks, he has called or stopped by almost everyday. He is trying to find my weakness again. This time it won’t work. I’ve alerted all my family about what kind of man this is. I’m heart broken over the fact that the things we had in common and all the good times were all lies. He played me for so long and was so believable. He had an answer for everything and fixed himself on my insecurites. He will find himself a new older woman to mess with. He will stop contacting me when he meets her. I’m left feeling empty, drained and emotionally raped. I let me guard down and have left myself in God’s hands now. People may say this is a disease, or disorder of the mind, but if you’re a believer in Christ, we know that this was clearly evil. The devil himself. My prayer is that this man finds God and allows his mind to be taken over by the fruits of the spirit. That is his only hope. My hope is the Lord as well and that every woman or man dealing with someone like this, should put their trust in God first and he will protect all of us from this evil spirit that prowls around looking like a sheep, but it’s really a wolf. There are many other things that happened to me from this person. But for now, I will wish all of you well. May the God of peace be with you all in Christ Jesus. Thanks for reading.

  24. I\\\’ve been reading a lot of these posts on different sites and there seems to be a lot of the same personality traits in Sociapths and Narcissist people. I\\\’m a 35 year old female who just kicked my 28 year old bf out of the house after 3 years. Before I met him, I was by myself for 5 years after getting out of a marriage to someone who cheated on me. In that 5 years alone, I became deeper in my Christian Faith and was learning to love myself by doing stuff for friends and family, by keeping up with my own business and working out. I\\\’ve always been very independent and very attractive by taking care of myself. After being alone for 5 years, I was beginning to feel very weak for a man\\\’s affection. I had been on dates here and there, but never really had a spark with anyone until I met this 28 year old attractive male. He seemed very passive and very charming. I liked the fact that he was so passive and that is what drew me towards him. After being hurt so badly in my marriage, it was very hard for me to trust anyone and I believe he knew that by reading me for a bit. He lied to me about having money in the beginning and said he was a day trader at home with his Father and said he only lived at home because he didn\\\’t want to leave his Dad alone in such a big house. Really it was him just mooching off of his Dad and being lazy. But, I fell for it thinking that was sweet of him to be so close to his family. He knew that I was saving myself for marriage again and played like he had only been in long term relationships himself, only for me to find out that he really did have many other experiences with girls. He lied to me about even having a car, he said his was wrecked and never got around to buying another one because he thought of it as a waste of money. I bought into that thinking he was simple, really he was just cheap and lazy. This man after only 5 months of dating somehow made it into my house and before you know it, I was living with him against my Christian beliefs. The whole time he lived with me he never lifted a finger. I would leave to go to work and he would be home surfing porn and dating sites. I would confront him and he would manipulate the whole fight. If we fought he would turn on the charm and have sex with me because he knew affection was my weakness. More time went on and I kept sweeping things under the rug that were red flags. As the relationship went on he became bored in bed and would use sex to control me. He than said that we should be more open in the bedroom and started having me practice deviant sexual behaviors on him. He would make me shove things in his anus and made me get a fake penis so he could have oral sex with it. There were times he would even swallow his own sperm and would want to dress up in my lingerie. He brought these sexual practices on his little by little with me. If I said I didn\\\’t feel comfortable, he would say..\\\”You\\\’re right, let\\\’s just forget about it.\\\” Than he would withhold sex from me. There were times I would take a nap and he would be in another room with the door open just masturbating to women putting things up men\\\’s butts. I was loosing myself and felt myself going into a deep depression trying to please him and making it right. Cooking and cleaning for him all the time…. I was hopeful that this man would change and that he only had issues from his family and they could be cleared up with time. As we lived together, I helped him to start his own business. Every weekend I would be out there helping him at events after working a long week myself. He would borrow my car and never maintenance it or put gas in it. He would only pay for food and electric and never offer to take me anywhere or help around the house. He felt like if his name wasn\\\’t on the house, he shouldn\\\’t have to help. When he got his cell phone hooked up, I was starting to find text messages from women and would get upset. So than he would manipulate that and hide his phone which drove me nuts. when I would get jealous about it, it was almost like he enjoyed it and it was feeding his ego. He would receive e-mails from other women saying that they couldn\\\’t go out with him because they had boyfriends. I tried kicking him out many times and he would not leave. He would act violent and than just start punching things. Finally, our fights escalted to him pushing me, grabbing me, choking me and even punching me in the legs. The first 8 months of our relationship seemed so blissful. He was so attentive, charming and always there. He was even going to church and would say that he couldn\\\’t wait to spend the rest of his life with me. We would cook together, workout together and watch movies. It felt like our world was peaceful. Than, the second I put demands on him and expecting something back, he started to turn into the devil. I was ashamed of myself, that I would even allow this in my home. Now that he is gone only after two weeks, he has called or stopped by almost everyday. He is trying to find my weakness again. This time it won\\\’t work. I\\\’ve alerted all my family about what kind of man this is. I\\\’m heart broken over the fact that the things we had in common and all the good times were all lies. He played me for so long and was so believable. He had an answer for everything and fixed himself on my insecurites. He will find himself a new older woman to mess with. He will stop contacting me when he meets her. I\\\’m left feeling empty, drained and emotionally raped. I let me guard down and have left myself in God\\\’s hands now. People may say this is a disease, or disorder of the mind, but if you\\\’re a believer in Christ, we know that this was clearly evil. The devil himself. My prayer is that this man finds God and allows his mind to be taken over by the fruits of the spirit. That is his only hope. My hope is the Lord as well and that every woman or man dealing with someone like this, should put their trust in God first and he will protect all of us from this evil spirit that prowls around looking like a sheep, but it\\\’s really a wolf. There are many other things that happened to me from this person. But for now, I will wish all of you well. May the God of peace be with you all in Christ Jesus. Thanks for reading.

  25. Ive been reading a lot of these posts on different sites and there seems to be a lot of the same personality traits in Sociapths and Narcissist people. Im a 35 year old female who just kicked my 28 year old bf out of the house after 3 years. Before I met him, I was by myself for 5 years after getting out of a marriage to someone who cheated on me. In that 5 years alone, I became deeper in my Christian Faith and was learning to love myself by doing stuff for friends and family, by keeping up with my own business and working out. I’ve always been very independent and very attractive by taking care of myself. After being alone for 5 years, I was beginning to feel very weak for a man’s affection. I had been on dates here and there, but never really had a spark with anyone until I met this 28 year old attractive male. He seemed very passive and very charming. I liked the fact that he was so passive and that is what drew me towards him. After being hurt so badly in my marriage, it was very hard for me to trust anyone and I believe he knew that by reading me for a bit. He lied to me about having money in the beginning and said he was a day trader at home with his Father and said he only lived at home because he didnt want to leave his Dad alone in such a big house. Really it was him just mooching off of his Dad and being lazy. But, I fell for it thinking that was sweet of him to be so close to his family. He knew that I was saving myself for marriage again and played like he had only been in long term relationships himself, only for me to find out that he really did have many other experiences with girls. He lied to me about even having a car, he said his was wrecked and never got around to buying another one because he thought of it as a waste of money. I bought into that thinking he was simple, really he was just cheap and lazy. This man after only 5 months of dating somehow made it into my house and before you know it, I was living with him against my Christian beliefs. The whole time he lived with me he never lifted a finger. I would leave to go to work and he would be home surfing porn and dating sites. I would confront him and he would manipulate the whole fight. If we fought he would turn on the charm and have sex with me because he knew affection was my weakness. More time went on and I kept sweeping things under the rug that were red flags. As the relationship went on he became bored in bed and would use sex to control me. He than said that we should be more open in the bedroom and started having me practice deviant sexual behaviors on him. He would make me shove things in his anus and made me get a fake penis so he could have oral sex with it. There were times he would even swallow his own sperm and would want to dress up in my lingerie. He brought these sexual practices of his little by little with me. If I said I didnt feel comfortable, he would say..”Youre right, lets just forget about it. Than he would withhold sex from me. There were times I would take a nap and he would be in another room with the door open just masturbating to women putting things up mens butts. I was loosing myself and felt myself going into a deep depression trying to please him and making it right. Cooking and cleaning for him all the time…. I was hopeful that this man would change and that he only had issues from his family and they could be cleared up with time. As we lived together, I helped him to start his own business. Every weekend I would be out there helping him at events after working a long week myself. He would borrow my car and never maintenance it or put gas in it. He would only pay for food and electric and never offer to take me anywhere or help around the house. He felt like if his name wasnt on the house, he shouldnt have to help. He would forget bdays and special occasions. But would never want you to forget his. When he got his cell phone hooked up, I was starting to find text messages from women and would get upset. So than he would manipulate that and hide his phone which drove me nuts. When I would get jealous about it, it was almost like he enjoyed it and it was feeding his ego. He would receive e-mails from other women saying that they couldnt go out with him because they had boyfriends. I tried kicking him out many times and he would not leave. He would act violent and than just start punching things. Finally, our fights escalted to him pushing me, grabbing me, choking me and even punching me in the legs. The first 8 months of our relationship seemed so blissful. He was so attentive, charming and always there. He was even going to church and would say that he couldn’t wait to spend the rest of his life with me. We would cook together, workout together and watch movies. It felt like our world was peaceful. Than, the second I put demands on him and expecting something back, he started to turn into the devil. I was ashamed of myself, that I would even allow this in my home. Now that he is gone only after two weeks, he has called or stopped by almost everyday. He is trying to find my weakness again. This time it wont work. Ive alerted all my family about what kind of man this is. Im heart broken over the fact that the things we had in common and all the good times were all lies. He played me for so long and was so believable. He had an answer for everything and fixed himself on my insecurites. He will find himself a new older woman to mess with. He will stop contacting me when he meets her. Im left feeling empty, drained and emotionally raped. I let me guard down and have left myself in Gods hands now. People may say this is a disease, or disorder of the mind, but if youre a believer in Christ, we know that this was clearly evil. The devil himself. My prayer is that this man finds God and allows his mind to be taken over by the fruits of the spirit. That is his only hope. My hope is the Lord as well and that every woman or man dealing with someone like this, should put their trust in God first and he will protect all of us from this evil spirit that prowls around looking like a sheep, but its really a wolf. There are many other things that happened to me from this person. But for now, I will wish all of you well. May the God of peace be with you all in Christ Jesus. Thanks for reading.

  26. Ive been reading a lot of these posts on different sites and there seems to be a lot of the same personality traits in Sociapths and Narcissist people. Im a 35 year old female who just kicked my 28 year old bf out of the house after 3 years. Before I met him, I was by myself for 5 years after getting out of a marriage to someone who cheated on me. In that 5 years alone, I became deeper in my Christian Faith and was learning to love myself by doing stuff for friends and family, by keeping up with my own business and working out. I\\\\\\\’ve always been very independent and very attractive by taking care of myself. After being alone for 5 years, I was beginning to feel very weak for a man\\\\\\\’s affection. I had been on dates here and there, but never really had a spark with anyone until I met this 28 year old attractive male. He seemed very passive and very charming. I liked the fact that he was so passive and that is what drew me towards him. After being hurt so badly in my marriage, it was very hard for me to trust anyone and I believe he knew that by reading me for a bit. He lied to me about having money in the beginning and said he was a day trader at home with his Father and said he only lived at home because he didnt want to leave his Dad alone in such a big house. Really it was him just mooching off of his Dad and being lazy. But, I fell for it thinking that was sweet of him to be so close to his family. He knew that I was saving myself for marriage again and played like he had only been in long term relationships himself, only for me to find out that he really did have many other experiences with girls. He lied to me about even having a car, he said his was wrecked and never got around to buying another one because he thought of it as a waste of money. I bought into that thinking he was simple, really he was just cheap and lazy. This man after only 5 months of dating somehow made it into my house and before you know it, I was living with him against my Christian beliefs. The whole time he lived with me he never lifted a finger. I would leave to go to work and he would be home surfing porn and dating sites. I would confront him and he would manipulate the whole fight. If we fought he would turn on the charm and have sex with me because he knew affection was my weakness. More time went on and I kept sweeping things under the rug that were red flags. As the relationship went on he became bored in bed and would use sex to control me. He than said that we should be more open in the bedroom and started having me practice deviant sexual behaviors on him. He would make me shove things in his anus and made me get a fake penis so he could have oral sex with it. There were times he would even swallow his own sperm and would want to dress up in my lingerie. He brought these sexual practices of his little by little with me. If I said I didnt feel comfortable, he would say..\\\\\\\”Youre right, lets just forget about it. Than he would withhold sex from me. There were times I would take a nap and he would be in another room with the door open just masturbating to women putting things up mens butts. I was loosing myself and felt myself going into a deep depression trying to please him and making it right. Cooking and cleaning for him all the time…. I was hopeful that this man would change and that he only had issues from his family and they could be cleared up with time. As we lived together, I helped him to start his own business. Every weekend I would be out there helping him at events after working a long week myself. He would borrow my car and never maintenance it or put gas in it. He would only pay for food and electric and never offer to take me anywhere or help around the house. He felt like if his name wasnt on the house, he shouldnt have to help. He would forget bdays and special occasions. But would never want you to forget his. When he got his cell phone hooked up, I was starting to find text messages from women and would get upset. So than he would manipulate that and hide his phone which drove me nuts. When I would get jealous about it, it was almost like he enjoyed it and it was feeding his ego. He would receive e-mails from other women saying that they couldnt go out with him because they had boyfriends. I tried kicking him out many times and he would not leave. He would act violent and than just start punching things. Finally, our fights escalted to him pushing me, grabbing me, choking me and even punching me in the legs. The first 8 months of our relationship seemed so blissful. He was so attentive, charming and always there. He was even going to church and would say that he couldn\\\\\\\’t wait to spend the rest of his life with me. We would cook together, workout together and watch movies. It felt like our world was peaceful. Than, the second I put demands on him and expecting something back, he started to turn into the devil. I was ashamed of myself, that I would even allow this in my home. Now that he is gone only after two weeks, he has called or stopped by almost everyday. He is trying to find my weakness again. This time it wont work. Ive alerted all my family about what kind of man this is. Im heart broken over the fact that the things we had in common and all the good times were all lies. He played me for so long and was so believable. He had an answer for everything and fixed himself on my insecurites. He will find himself a new older woman to mess with. He will stop contacting me when he meets her. Im left feeling empty, drained and emotionally raped. I let me guard down and have left myself in Gods hands now. People may say this is a disease, or disorder of the mind, but if youre a believer in Christ, we know that this was clearly evil. The devil himself. My prayer is that this man finds God and allows his mind to be taken over by the fruits of the spirit. That is his only hope. My hope is the Lord as well and that every woman or man dealing with someone like this, should put their trust in God first and he will protect all of us from this evil spirit that prowls around looking like a sheep, but its really a wolf. There are many other things that happened to me from this person. But for now, I will wish all of you well. May the God of peace be with you all in Christ Jesus. Thanks for reading.

  27. Wow. I constantly ask myself why didnt I see the siqns? I consider myself an intelligent woman, how didnt I pick up on ANYTHING? Im feel so blessed to have a site to go to. Many people wonder how can they can be sure the person who destroyed their life is really as narcissist. All I can say is when you’ve been hit by a narcissist there is no question. Its like having an encounter with satan…They smile, wine you, dine you, intentionally gain your trust (key word INTENTIONALLY).Then in the blink off an eye they are out looking for another life to devour and will leave you like you never exsited.Then do everything to destroy your life.

  28. Please excuse the typos (key board issues).

  29. My ex left me after 8 years. It has been 6 months and he has not contacted me. He left saying he saw how much pain he was causing me and that he was going to get help. Then he ignored me from that point forward.

  30. to add to the above comment He was a high school teacher in Jamaica and he has admitted to sleeping with his students as well. All of which i am just finding out after all these years.

  31. I have known one for 13 yrs. Had a crazy relationship for 4yrs. I finally moved on met someone really nice and had a child. A few month ago the sick narc contacted me again and then I let him in thinking that he had changed and maybe that we could actually have a normal friendship. Well guess what, I was totally wrong. He is still the same rude, crazy narc person that I met 13 years ago. Those people never change. The only reason why he contacted me again after so many years was because he was probably bored and wanted to make sure that he still had some kind of power over me. I regreted so much to had let him in again. Our friendship did not feel right. There was always some kind of tenssion between us. I let it linger for a couple of months to see if maybe there was a chance of being real friends but not as soon as things did not go his way and I started to disagree with his views and sexual requests, he started becoming even more mean and distant just to hurt me. Honestly, the guy would get high whenever he would hang the phone on me or say something really nasty or evil. Narcs can drive you crazy and make you sick. You are better off without them. His own daugther advised me to stay away from him if I wanted to keep my sanity. So I am very happy not to longer have to deal with the crazy narc..

  32. hi its been six years for me, the emotional abuse is soul destroying, i have left now 2 weeks ago, he refuses to speak to me, i feel like a used rag. will i get over this

  33. I was with a N for 6 years. Once I educated myself on why there was so much craziness, I let it empower me. I played him like a fool as once you figure them out, it is easy. You have to be strong as you will be subjected to their rages. In any event, patience and confidence was what worked for me. By the time it was over with us, he was accusing me of all the things I tried to discuss with him about my feelings – I just turned it on him. At that point, I looked at him, and did not see him as a man anymore but rather, a pathetic spoiled brat. I feel GREAT!
    I have read forums on how it feels to be dumped by your N and they move on to another ASAP! Do not let that bring you down! There is someone out there that will treat you kind, love you for you, and be there for you! Perhaps some readings as well on the Law of Attraction might help some of you!

  34. Jackie,

    I feel hopeless. I cry every night. After 5years of having a relationship with a narc, he dupped me a month ago. Im angry because I want to play him like he played me. How did you do it?

  35. Thomas – don’t seek revenge. Stand strong and proud and keep walking forward away from him – RUN and do not go back. I assure you, Narc’s do not change, they do not want to please you. They have no empathy. You will look the fool and the weak one by seeking revenge. There is a sight if you Google it called “how to make a narcissist feel bad” or something. Good tips, but don’t do anything illegal or dangerous to you. My Narc’s ex – double life is a cop. I am thinking about writing to her very briefly advising what he is and personality traits to protect past, present and future victims – that is all. I’ve just discovered after 35 years I have been conned by a Narc and I am so scared he’s going to get me. I have never felt this way with him, he’s flipped his lid with silent treatment on me and putting it all back on me. I just asked him to communicate better. Do not give orders……….. I left for 7 months and he came back three months ago, all the sweeties in the world and I was so happy and pleased – but now the silent treatment for two and a half months. He has killed my soul, I have cried so dam hard I wanted to die, I really wanted to die. But he is not worth it, no man is. The man who is worth your tears will never make you cry. He was nice for one month and now I’m a complete wreck, but three months ago I was getting over him, truly getting over him. Now I want him back so bad, just as a friend even, just to have his company, chatting, etc, but am I mad? No way, I’m going to battle through this pain and never contact him again. Do the same. This is not love. I was suicidal – that is not love. Oh I loved him, I was so in love with him. I still am, but I will not let him back in and that kills me. But not as much as if he gets to me….. You are all CEO of your own life – remember that. No one can make you feel inferior without your persmission. Eleanor Roosevelt.

  36. My boyfriend dumped me after 9months in the relationship. We had never had an argument. I did everything that he wanted. Tookme totally by suprise. The said that he need a break, but still wanted to date me. He then called me a week later and said that he wanted to end our romantic relationship and be friends. I spoke with him a few weeks later and he was nice and seemed very happy to hear from me. It has been 5 weeks since the breakup and no phone call. Everyone says that he will call, but I have my doubts. I just would like to know what happened. We were so happy.

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  40. I have a girlfriend who im sure is a narcissist. I made the mistake trying to break up with her before i got my stuff back. Now she refuses to give me my stuff or even see me or call on the phone. I told her i just want my stuff and move on, but thats before i did the research of narcissism. I do plan slowly to manipulate her when she gets out of her ego trip and try to get my stuff back on the sly then give her the ol its been great, but im leaving you now. Goodbye, then delete her from my life and try to find another girlfriend so when she tries to get back in my life, it will be allot easier to say, “we are finished” end of story. Being alone and i did/do love her makes it tough on me as i dont have many friends to go out and do things with and she knows this, thats why i would like a friend who can help me out in case i get a weak moment when/if she tries to crawl back.

  41. hello

    You will get over it. Think about you have just one life, be genuine about it, and dont stay waisting your life, your love, your moments, and your energy with a narcissistic.

    A Narcissistic doesnt do more than captured you, not because he loves you or for sharing a quality of life with you but just because he wants to suck the life from you. your world will become him/her and your life will be gone.
    dont accept that on yourself. you will not die away from him/ her, and there is no love there to be missed. just pick up yourself and move on with your life.

  42. prophetharry@ymail.com is really a truthful spell caster and so powerful and he is the most powerful spell caster that i have ever met. i wish i have met him before. my husband just came back to me and every thing happened just the way prophetharry said, i am so happy that i have met with prophet and now i have my husband back to my self. if you need your lover back, use his spell and dont doubt his powers i have tested him and i am now a fulfilled woman

  43. My boyfriend and I were in love for 3 and half years and we lived together almost 2 and half year. He used to care me more than his own life. He used to love me and take care of me like a baby. Then suddenly he started to act wired since june and broke up with me in two week back saying he has a new girl friend. But again he started to come back to me 6 days but But finally on the 7 day I figured out he was sleeping with that girl and me at the same time. That girl is known as a very bad girl and my boy friend knows that but still he is with her. That’s little unusual for him. It almost feels like someone did something to him. Then I met prophetharry@ymail.com on internet and I told him everything. First he asked me for my boyfriend photograph then he casted love spell and within 4 days my boyfriend came back to me and first time he said sorry to me. I am very happy now

  44. The spell I order for a better relationship with my boyfriend has worked wonders. Dr. Ogun really does know what he’s doing. I saw results within 3 days and it’s continuing, so I owe Dr. Ogun a lot. he’s wonderful and he cares, he contacts you back if you have any questions and more importantly HIS SPELLS WORK. thank you Dr. Ogun. I love ya, and will use you again for sure. He’s great, everyone should try him!!! Via Email: Templeofloveandmoney@gmail.com

  45. I dealt with a guy with these same exact traits. He was very emotionally abusive and also jealous of me because I had more than he did. He felt like I thought I was better than him and because of that he tried to break me down. The way this man got to me was by way of mirroring the type of person that I was and treating me as the type of person that he at the time was and still is. By doing that I saw him as a man with goals and ambition. He made me feel as though I was a piece of crap. I guess that’s what is call gaslighting as well. Anyhoo 2 years have past and this same man have been trying to stay in contact with me saying that he wants a second chance or will scream out my name like a mad man when he sees me and will continue to do this even though I ignore him. He has blatantly tried to get my attention infront of any of the women that he talks to. But I don’t want his ass. At first I was happy that he was showing me attention. It made me feel as though I was not just abandoned and seen as nothing. After a while I got fed up with it because although he would screaming out my name he would never say sorry. Funny part about this story was that he was the first man I had ever slept with, but I never truly wanted him and he knew that. Yes he hurt my feelings and til this day if I think about it I may cry, but it wasn’t becaused I loved him it was because he envaded my emotional space and had no true concern. I delt with this man or less than a man for little less than a year and I completely cut it off. Even when I tried to cut it off when we were dealing with each other he didn’t allow it. Recently he asked for a second chance, but in the same breathe said that I was too strong for him. He basically told on himself that what he sat out to do (which was to break me down) did not work. I guess none of the females that he dealt with were as much of a challenge as me because he can’t seem to move completely on. The women or girls that he deal with have nothing going for themselves just like him and because of that I believe that’s the reason why he keeps trying to come back around my way. One thing for sure is that it is a very hurtful and confusing situation. Every body’s Narc expereince is a bit different. Some of us cared more for the Narc’s than others some of us invested more time into the Narc relationship than others but truth betold they are sick peope who saw in you what they wanted so ladies and gentlemen who have been in this situation you are awesome. And in do time we will all bounce back and get stronger than we were before dealing with the psychopath.!

  46. I dealt with a guy with these same exact traits. He was very emotionally abusive and also jealous of me because I had more than he did. He felt like I thought I was better than him and because of that he tried to break me down. The way this man got to me was by way of mirroring the type of person that I was and treating me as the type of person that he at the time was and still is. By doing that I saw him as a man with goals and ambition. He made me feel as though I was a piece of crap. I guess that\’s what is call gaslighting as well. Anyhoo 2 years have past and this same man have been trying to stay in contact with me saying that he wants a second chance or will scream out my name like a mad man when he sees me and will continue to do this even though I ignore him. He has blatantly tried to get my attention infront of any of the women that he talks to. But I don\’t want his ass. At first I was happy that he was showing me attention. It made me feel as though I was not just abandoned and seen as nothing. After a while I got fed up with it because although he would screaming out my name he would never say sorry. Funny part about this story was that he was the first man I had ever slept with, but I never truly wanted him and he knew that. Yes he hurt my feelings and til this day if I think about it I may cry, but it wasn\’t becaused I loved him it was because he envaded my emotional space and had no true concern. I delt with this man or less than a man for little less than a year and I completely cut it off. Even when I tried to cut it off when we were dealing with each other he didn\’t allow it. Recently he asked for a second chance, but in the same breathe said that I was too strong for him. He basically told on himself that what he sat out to do (which was to break me down) did not work. I guess none of the females that he dealt with were as much of a challenge as me because he can\’t seem to move completely on. The women or girls that he deal with have nothing going for themselves just like him and because of that I believe that\’s the reason why he keeps trying to come back around my way. One thing for sure is that it is a very hurtful and confusing situation. Every body\’s Narc expereince is a bit different. Some of us cared more for the Narc\’s than others some of us invested more time into the Narc relationship than others but truth betold they are sick peope who saw in you what they wanted so ladies and gentlemen who have been in this situation you are awesome. And in do time we will all bounce back and get stronger than we were before dealing with the psychopath.!

  47. Wow! Thanks everyone for sharing your stories. It really helps me to know that I’m not the only one that went through this crap. I didn’t know what a narc was prior to my partner of several years just getting in his car to abandon me never to return. I had never felt such pain in my life and didn’t even know such pain was possible for a human to feel. I blamed myself, hated myself and thought I was insane. Reading stories like these really helped me to understand that while I am most certainly not perfect AT ALL, that I was the victim of a known disorder that my former partner suffers from. Personally, I’m convinced the son of a bitch is evil, but if calling it a personality disorder makes most sense, I guess I can roll with that theory. But it sure is nice that other people have been through the same thing. It’s even better that time seems to heal the wounds from this. For me, it’s been about 10 months since he left me (and then apparently participated in police investigations his mother started claiming I was ’stalking’ him) and pretended he didn’t know me once I drove 1300 miles to LA to try to figure out what had happened. I learned the hard way to stay the hell away from these people, they truly are dangerous and will stop at nothing to make sure they look like victims so that others feel sorry for them. It’s really quite disturbing but ultimately it’s their Karma, right? Thanks again for everyone that shared their stories because it really helped me to make sense of things and to feel like I’m ready to take on my life again; without him.

  48. Narcissism is rare and misinterpretated. People just assume that a jerk in his/her life was a narcissist and hate on them when it’s actually a rare mental condition. My boyfriend is a diagnosed narcissist and he loves me to the point that he will not let go of me for HOURS, he hugs me everytime he sees me and he is never rude, although he is very cold/direct. Narcissists infact have the greatest ability to love others, because the more someone loves themselves, the easier it is to love others.

    This whole site contains content referring to random jerks in one’s life that was considered a narcissist because of how the media portrays a narcissist when it has a complete different meaning.

  49. When I married my husband I was already pregnant and so I didn’t have a job. He had a really good job though so I was able to stay home and take care of our son when it was born. When we had our second child we moved to a bigger house, but then strange things started to happen. Things would fly off the walls and doors would slam at night. Our oldest son talked about seeing figures and hearing voices. We consulted a medium and they said the house was haunted. After living there about a year more with only minor occurrences we moved out. That was when the bad luck started to happen. Everything started to fail, with my husband’s job, our money and our luck in general. I went back to the same medium and they told me that a spirit had followed me and placed a curse upon me for disturbing it and not being respectful in the previous house. He tried to remove it but was unable. The misfortune kept going on and getting more severe as I tried to search out someone to break the curse. But when I found Dr OMO spell he finally did it. Things started turning around almost immediately after he cast the spell and have been great from there! This was really a miracle for us, thank you Dr OMO spell from the bottom of my heart! Contact: alteroffiretemple@gmail.com

  50. “I have a very hard case and you were my last hope… I had wasted loads of money with other spell casters but never had results… I decided to use your most powerful spell and it is the best investment I have ever made. Your powers are real and you can consider me as a friend for life, thanks to mukumukushrine@gmail.com.

  51. Why do you people need spell casters to get a man?just be confident and enjoy your lives and when you do, the right man will come around. Don’t be so desperate.

  52. I met this spell through a friends description and he told me that he help him to get his wife back when another man took her from him and then i decided to try him out and i discover that he is the best and he is very powerful and just yesterday my husband whom i thought will never come back to me came and said to me that he was sorry for leaving me. i now so happy that my desire have been fulfilled. thank to the Dr.Wala of the wildernessofspirit@gmail.com he is so powerful.

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