Thoughts About Self Love and Self Esteem

Self esteem is, from my opinion, a term too widely used and often wrong understood. When we say that a person has a high self esteem, we often think about an arrogant person. That’s not true. First of all, what does it mean to have self esteem? Is this a feeling, or an attitude, or discipline. We all know that it is connected with something good and fancy, that’s the popular belief.

Let’s define this as “feeling good in your own skin”. So, how do we achive that? It is a complex problem and it takes from my opinion a plan. First of all every person, if he wants to feel ok, must have an occupation to work on. From my opinion, if you are a lazy person, the whole worlds won’t help you and you will always feel emptyness inside yourself. So, fwe have the first peace of puzzle that ia well known and I will not spend much time on it, let’s consider hard work and occupation like the cornerstone of your own happiness and independence.

Ok, let’s move on. Now I have a big question. There are a lot of people employed etc. still I see them unhappy. This is something that made me think. My friend has a job, but still I can see on his face traces of insecurity and unhappiness, the same applies for me. I discovered that there are a lot of hidden feelings inside my self that I was not aware of. Since I got rid of them, I feel a lot more content and my feelings are more stable.

I also discovered that this might be a root of my anger and occasional emotional overreaction. The feelings are negative. So, my journey was interesting. I began to thing about the first days of my life I can remember. And I enjoyed it! Thinking about the first class in the school and stuff like that. What an enjoyable ride!

Then, I came across a feeling I thought I had overcome. It was year 1992 and the war in Bosnia was like hell on earth. For me as an 11 year old kid, it was like a movie. I felt like this is a big game and it’s not real, like the Rambo movies I watched. This day, when I had to leave my country and erase my previous life, is a typical hidden feeling that was not resolved. Now I can say that it was a big shock, but in that time, my soul did not „register“ that as a shock.

Now, so many years after the war, I rewind it back and I realize that the remembrance of this day, when I escaped from my hometown to stay alive, caused a lot of excitement in my body. It took days to finally say goodbye to this feeling but I discovered that there are events in a person that he is not aware of and that may cause him emotional instability. I recommend to everybody to rewind his life, this will pay off as it payed (is still) off for me.

I wish you the best.