DESCRIPTION OF CASE
Leah (not her real name) is a class I student has just SMU Favorites Salatiga grade II. He came from a farmer who is quite the social economy in a remote village + 17 km outside the town of Quezon City, as the first child of his parents initially objected to his son went to junior high school graduating high school in Quezon City; the parents had hoped that their children do not need hard-has continuedschool to the city, but over time coaxing her homeroom STTB decision to give up their children with severe school.
DESCRIPTION OF CASE
Leah (not her real name) is a class I student has just SMU Favorites Salatiga grade II. He came from a farmer who is quite the social economy in a remote village + 17 km outside the town of Quezon City, as the first child of his parents initially objected to his son went to junior high school graduating high school in Quezon City; the parents had hoped that their children do not need hard-has continuedschool to the city, but over time coaxing her homeroom STTB decision to give up their children with severe school. Consideration guardian class because Lia fairly intelligent among other friends, so normal that can be received in high school favorites. Since received in high school favorites on the one hand Lia proud as a country boy could always be accepted, but on the other hand started to feel inferior to her friends, mostly from wealthy families with very different patterns of association with Lia background. He considered my friends from wealthy families as a selfish, unfriendly, picky friends who are both from wealthy families, and arrogant. The longer the feeling of being rejected, terisolik, and the more tense and lonely nascent attitudes and perceived school was not for him not krasan, but going out embarrassed by his parents and the whole village; continue to survive, there is no hard / have a friend who cares. My basic village children, poor children (compared to his friends in the city) hujatnya yourself. Finally truly become a child minder, and hesitant and shy and scared to get along as it should. More and more fall in value so that the burden of thought and feeling more and more weight, as to doubt whether it can go up a class or not
LIA UNDERSTANDING IN PERSPECTIVE rational emotive
In the view of rational emotive, human beings have an inherent ability to act rationally or irrationally, humans are born with a remarkable tendency of strong and urgent desire to make things happen for the best for life and altogether blame themselves, others and the world ifdo not immediately get what he wants. Consequently childish thinking (as a matter of manunusiawi) throughout life, ultimately just a enormous difficulties were able to achieve and maintain a realistic behavior and adult; besides humans also have a tendency to overestimate the importance of acceptance of other people that actually causes emotional not reasonably often blame themselves in ways that his demeanor and self-destructive ways obtained. Think and feel is very close to each other and with the thoughts and feelings can be the opposite; what he thinks and feels, or what the events and realized in the action / behavior is rational or irrational. How the action / behavior that is very easily influenced by others and the drive-doronan strong to defend ourselves and indulge even irrational.
The characteristics of an irrational person can not be substantiated, play a role dimui God what should happen, to control the world, and if unable to do so is considered stupid and useless; foster feelings of discomfort (such as anxiety) do not really need, not too bad / embarrassing but allowed to continue, and prevents a person from kembai to the initial event and change it. Eventually even lead to feelings of helplessness in themselves are concerned. Forms of thought / feeling is irrational for example: everyone in the environment I have to like me, if anyone is not happy for me that means disaster for me. That means my fault, because I’m not precious, not like the people / friends. I deserve to suffer because of these things.
In connection with the case, Lia actually born with the potential to excel, it becomes problematic because the behavior is controlled by the mind / irrational feelings and she has put on the concept of self-esteem / confidence that one is if the rich pay attention to all your friends / support, care, etc. and that’s all there is no / obtained from the school, until in the end blame themselves with blasphemy and suffering and isolates himself. He has successfully developed the concept itself is not realistic based on the assumption that one of (and from) neighborhood friends. He became self-conscious, shy, timid and hesitant ultimately the success / achievement later that really does not need to happen.
PURPOSE AND COUNSELING TECHNIQUES
If thought is not logical Lia / realistic (about the concept itself and its attitude to his friends) that he would fight to change it. Thus the purpose of counseling is to fight the irrational thought that melatar Lia-backs on the fear / kecematannya the concept itself is wrong and their attitude to other friends. In a more nuanced authoritative counseling counselor: call Lia, invite discussion and to encourage him to move from direct confrontation of irrational thinking to rational / logical and realistic through persuasive, suggestive, giving appropriate advice, treatment by applying the principles of learning for the PR and the bibliography of therapy .
Cognitive counseling: to show that Lia had to dismantle irrational thinking about the wrong concept of self-esteem, attitudes toward their peers are wrong if you want more happy and successful. More counselors teaching style: give advice, direct confrontation with the map-irasoonal rational thought, of suggestion and self asertive simulation training with the right to apply self-concept and attitude / dependence on others is right / rationally proceed as a PR exercise, self-observation and evaluation. Example: from a person rather than property value or the number and status of friends who support you, but the love of God and its realization. God loves me, because I am worth dihadiratNya. About myself when I was a happy, satisfied and proud, but sometimes indifferent, sometimes even I hate, cursing myself, so reasonable and realistic when some 40 people there are friends of the class instance + 40% good, 50% neutral, only 10% that hates me. It is impossible demands of all / any person at any time either on me, and so on. These ideas are taught, and trained with a scientific approach.
Evolatif-emotive counseling to change the system value by using the technique of awareness Lia between right and wrong as the example, play a role, and the release of the load so that Lia releases his thoughts and feelings are not rational and replace it with a rational as a continuation of the above cognitive techniques. Behavioritas counseling is used to change the negative behavior with roots merobah Lia beliefs are irrational / illogical reinforcemen contract, social modeling, and relaxation / meditation.
This theory is in helping direct approach using the advice that is characterized by attacking the problem with an intellectual and convincing (koselor). The technique is clear, thorough, more and see / realize the thoughts and words are continually addressed to yourself, who brought ruin to themselves. The way the counselor is to approach a firm, ask attention to the thoughts that the cause of the disorder and how the mind and the sentence was in operation until the adverse consequences. The counselor then helped him to think again, to challenge, debate, said the sentences were adverse, and thus he brings clients to a new awareness and insight. But the insight and awareness are not enough. He must be trained to think and say to yourself things are more positive and realistic. The therapist teaches the client to think well and act effectively. The technique used is eklektif with consideration:
A. Economical in terms of time for both the counselor and counselee
2. Technical effectiveness of the use of technical-suited for a wide range of counselees
3. Freshness of the results achieved,
4. Soil depth and length and can be used to counsel counselees themselves lost.
In conclusion, re-structuring philosophically wrong to change the personality functioning involves the following steps: (1) fully acknowledge that we are largely responsible for creating our own problems, (2) accept the notion that we have the ability to change the disturbances in means, (3) realize that the problems and our emotions come from irrational beliefs, (4) clearly perceive these beliefs, (5) accept the fact that, if we expect to change, we should better handle ways of behavior and emotion for children to follow our beliefs and feelings that one of the functions and actions that follow, and (6) practice RET methods to eliminate or modify the consequences impaired in the remaining time our lives.