In search of perfection, many women commit themselves to more than their time allows. Women need to know that it’s okay to be less than perfect. Managing time is important for a woman’s mental health.
There is an old saying, if you want something done ask a busy person. There are all sorts of reasons why busy people tend to get things done. I’d like to think it’s because busy people are exceptionally well organised. This may be the case for some, but for others it’s a mere case of being unable to utter that simple word, NO. Then, having made the commitment, they go out of their way to make sure the task is completed on time.
It may come as no surprise to you to know that women are the major culprits in this over commitment dilemma. Women are used to juggling their lifestyle. They manage to fulfill parenting and work obligations and still occasionally find time for themselves. And, if at times there is absolutely no time for themselves, they understand their time will come. So they usually breeze through their busy schedules with a smile on their face.
Unfortunately this is not always the case. Some women have a need to be perfect. They need to be seen as the perfect Mom, the perfect partner in life and the perfect work employee. Trying to be perfect is definitely hazardous. This perception of needing to be perfect can cause a woman to take on far more than she can realistically manage. In these cases mental health is definitely endangered.
There is a third category and it is into this I think I fit. These are the people who love life so much they want to cram as much as possible into it. Not for me the boredom of not knowing what to do. I’m one of those people who are far too easily inspired to take on something new, even when I know I have enough fun activities in my life already. If something sounds interesting, I’m likely to put my hand up to have a go.
Admittedly, as I’ve become older, I have become a little wiser. When a new opportunity arises. I consider my current commitments before I make a decision. How I hate having to turn something down. Very occasionally I drop an activity from my life, only temporarily mind you, in order to take on something new. Once forever in danger of over commitment, I have now learned to regulate activities according to the time available.
It is common knowledge that everything should be done in moderation. That includes accepting new commitments. No matter how interesting an opportunity seems, or how desperately you want to be seen as the perfect woman, you need to weigh up the pros and cons. Consider whether you can realistically give your best when someone asks you to do something. Is the new commitment going to seriously intrude into the little time you have?
If you don’t believe you can give of yourself one hundred per cent without affecting your own mental health, remember there is always that magical word to fall back on. NO.
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