Women with Asperger’s Syndrome face a unique set of challenges.
Women with Asperger’s syndrome face a unique set of challenges. They may have a more difficult time with relationships, career, college, and other aspect of their life than their neurotypical counterparts. It may also be more difficult for aspie women to get the help and support they need than males with Asperger’s because a lot of women aspies might not have been diagnosed as children, and the disorder is stereotyped as affecting men more often and to a greater degree.
A lot of adult women with Aspergers go undiagnosed. The disorder is rarely diagnosed in adults, even though it is a lifelong condition, and it is often overlooked in female children. Without a diagnosis, it may be hard for a woman to get the help and support she needs. She may even run into the problem of having the people in her life not believe her when she talks about her disorder if she cannot get a proper diagnosis. By adulthood, most aspies, especially women, are able to mask their disorder and better blend in with “normal” society. While this can help make life easier, it also causes other people to not take their disorder seriously.
Women with Asperger’s can have a more difficult time with relationships. The are more likely to become too obsessed too soon with their partner than neurotypical women. This can cause their partner to feel smothered and end the relationship. On the other hand, they may be too “cold” in a relationship, and not know how to open up emotionally with their partner. An woman on the spectrum may also dislike being touched, which can get in the way of intimacy. This can make their partner think that they don’t care, which can also hurt the relationship. Aspie women may also be too trusting, as Aspies tend to be more honest than the general population, which can lead to the Aspie woman getting abused or taken advantage of in a relationship.
Women on the autism spectrum may have a more difficult time in college. Though they will generally succeed with the academic coursework, they may struggle socially. It is hard for anyone to make friends in college, and this is especially true for aspies. Moving away for college can also be especially taxing on an aspie, as their routine will be disrupted and changed. As with relationships, female aspies also have to be more careful about trusting peers and friends in college, least they be taken advantage of.
It may also be more difficult for a woman with Asperger’s to find a career. In an interview, she might be seen as odd or socially awkward, which can turn prospective employers away. Because females with Asperger’s tend to spend less time worrying about fashion and appearance, they may not take into account how to dress or how to do their hair and makeup for an interview. Appearance and social skills are everything while job hunting, regardless of your qualifications. Employers tend to pick the more outgoing or “normal” person, even if the “awkward” prospective employee is much more qualified. It’s sad, but true. The fact that even in this day and age, men still have an advantage in the workplace doesn’t help matters either.
If you are a woman with Asperger’s syndrome, you can be successful and have a fulfilling life if you are willing to keep these challenges in mind, work hard, and be flexible.
For more information on girl’s with aspergers, and why they are often misdiagnosed, please read this article: Girls with Asperger’s Syndrome
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