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Abuse does not usually start off as physical. If the signs are subtle, then that can be a red flag. What usually seems insignificant is really the most important behavior to carefully watch out for.
My mother told me that I must have done something wrong or made an offensive statement why the narcissist hates me so. I admit there were times when I was profane and disrespectful but it was largely impart a response to how he spoke to me. I felt if he was being obnoxious then I would be rude to him, probably he liked that. I realized being rude to him only gave him an excuse to stay as far away from me as possible. He became abhorrent to my frustrations and angry outburst at him, he had transferred his madness to me and had made me out to be the crazy, invidious person he was.
Most narcissist are conscious about their appearance and physique. You cannot be bursting at the seams and expect a ripped successful alpha male with a bad temper to want to remain with you. If he is keen on his appearance then you need to step up yours in order to qualify to be his partner. He is going to consider your weight, appearance and fashion choices when he picks you for his lifelong victim.
It was not until I managed to drag myself from the chasm of obsession that I realized that the qualities that I was attracted to in the narcissist are the ones I deeply lack within myself. I assumed that he could complete me when I should have been striving to complete myself. I believe Lisa E Scott saved my life when I read her site. I quickly began the process of autosuggestion to get over the narcissist. Self Esteem and Boundaries were my artillery to fight against the men I met with narcissistic tendencies. I was committed to ensure that no other man would humiliate me like that.
If he is a narcissist that cares much about public opinion and social image then you will have make yourself more socially appealing so that he will think that you are a great catch! you must make your self the woman he cannot live without or you cannot afford to lose!
You cannot have him. He will never give himself to someone who he knows is already in love with him. To keep him, you will have to be constantly turning up the drama to keep his adrenaline running and that will turn you into a empty nutcase. You need to seek support and professional help. You need to be thrown a lifeline to be able to move on with your life.