Is Your Sex Life Losing Stream?
Some women find achieving the big-O more of a chore than pleasure. If you’re one of them, you could be having a case of Female Orgasmic Disorder (FOD). FOD classifies the condition as an abnormal delay or total absence of orgasm when engaging in sexual activity. But there’s no reason to lose sleep over it! Here are ways to overcome the condition.
Change Your Medication
If you’re currently on medication and notice that lately you’re experiencing difficulty in achieving orgasm, ask your doctor if the drugs are known to affect sex drive and if an alternative medication may be prescribed, if indeed it is the cause of your faltering orgasms.
Be Open
Most women fall for the myth that sex equals orgasms. This puts pressure on them to perform resulting in the inability to relax. Couples should not allow their lovemaking sessions to centre on the goal of achieving orgasm. Honestly talk to each other about your needs and learn to be experts in arousing one another.
Do the Kegel
Pelvic muscles are responsible for contractions of the vaginal wall. The tighter the muscles, the tighter the “grip”, which results in better orgasms. Some women have naturally weaker pelvic muscles, while others lose their pelvic muscle tone due to overstretching caused by childbirth. One method to tone up pelvic muscles is with Kegel exercises: Contract the muscles you’d use to stop urinating or “pretend” to stop the flow of urine. Do sets of five to 10 contractions per day; the longer you hold your contractions, the stronger your muscles become. Best part is you can “Kegel” anytime, even while waiting in line at the bank!
Get Over Shame
It’s never easy to feel at ease with someone if you’ve been sexually abused before. The Bermans recommend counseling for victims of sexual abuse and state that the three steps to recovering are: First, acknowledging the past; second, understanding and knowing that it wasn’t your fault; and lastly, purging the feeling of shame.
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magwealth | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
This is an aha kind of issue right… ? I suppose the part of dealing with shame actually eats up a woman´ś sexual life. If only there was a cure for the shame bit of it..
nesita | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
A topic that is not easy to write about but you handled it well.
Darla Cooke | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
I believe the same of being abused is a big factor in the problem.
QuinMonty86 | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
Hi Matt, delicate issue handled well. And if I may put in my 2 cents worth ; ) after being married for 23 years, the communication part is KEY!! Let your partner know what you want, and especially what you don’t!! Talk to each other. Play some games. Set the mood. Get silly. Relax. Sex can be fun and funny and when you’re relaxed, BOOM, they can rock your world.
If boredom sets in…: (
Lily River | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
Sometimes the element of surprise helps one achieve the O better.
ML Sheldon | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
Good article… but I think that it should be recognized that some women are just not anatomically set up to have orgasms during sex.
I know that foreplay and all that is part of sex, but I’m talking about the act of actual sex itself. For some women, it is physically impossible to have an orgasm through sex alone without other stimulation.
Informative and well-written article.
George W Whitehead | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
I’m not in a position to endorse the content but is certainly a well researched and well written article.
khsmith93063 | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
Good Points!
Inna Tysoe | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
I agree with the previous commentators–you handled a sensitive topic with delicacy.
Inna
Mr Ghaz | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
Absolutely awesome. Nicely done. Thx for sharing
Juancav | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
Great and important subject,well done.
rutherfranc | Mar 27, 2009 | Reply
currently emailing this to all of my lady friends anonymously…
macon | Mar 28, 2009 | Reply
good article..
Kimberly Moore | Mar 29, 2009 | Reply
Wonderful article!! Hilarious Pic too!!
CutestPrincess | Mar 30, 2009 | Reply
funny pic, some good advice, thanks for sharing!
NIN1971 | Jul 5, 2009 | Reply
Ooh..aah..like this article Matt John.
oldster | Aug 15, 2009 | Reply
Very informative. Thank you.