Sex, hormones, vibrators and more.

We all of know, and can recognize, when our cat or bitch is in heat. “The Heat” in human beings is regulated by hormones and environment. We do not go through the “heat season” like our cats and bitches. However, we too have periods when we are “more hot” and “less hot”. This article examines the major influences on female human sex drive. Unlike animals we are able to regulate our sexual drive. Also, we enjoy sex throughout our life as opposed to for a few days of “heat” which occur at or around time of ovulation.

I was prompted to write this article after I read a research paper published in the American Medical Association’s journal which stated that several million US women suffer from female sexual arousal disorder. I am a Registered Nurse and a Lecturer in Health Sciences in a Major University and am interested in the sexual wellbeing of both males and females.

In Britain the picture is similar. However, the research comes from family planning clinics which state that they see “quite large numbers of women who complain of lack of sexual desire”. It is estimated that many of these women have no problems with having orgasms. However, they have no real desire to have sex, and their minds are not turned on by the prospect of lovemaking.

This article, examines the factors which turn the mind on or off to love making.

Over the last fifty years more and more women have entered the labor force. There is no research to show that women benefit sexually by being in the labor force. The economic gains are however very clear. It is my opinion that work is a stressor and that stress depresses sexual drive because when an individual is working, he or she has less time and energy to think about and participate in sexual activities.

Most human females do not just want to jump into bed, have sex and reach an orgasm immediately. Many males would be comfortable jumping in bed with a female, taking off their clothes and having sex. Within a space of a few minutes everything is over. Females are not like this. Human females like to be involved in lengthy foreplay.

Lengthy foreplay includes the following: Knowing the partner (male/female). Being involved in “Smooth / flirt talk” and being emotionally attached to the partner. The human male is less interested in these activities but is often willing to perform these rituals as a part of the wooing process

Human females love receiving gifts like flowers and clothing. Studies show that these behaviors by the male partner enhance receptive behavior of the female.

Light reading of love stories and novels are known TURN ONs for the female. This is part of the management of the environment, desire and motivation for sex.

Gentle touching, patting and kissing can form the prelude to heavy patting touching. At this point the female may be receptive to being touched and kissed in and around the more private and personal areas.

As we live in a very legal world it is very important that both parties to this sort of touching and foreplay agree and consent. It is important to respect one another’s personal space. If a female says “no” it is important (legally and sexually) to respect that. Respecting a female may be a very strong turn on because it reinforces the emotional connection.

Kissing and touching the breasts for prolonged periods are more likely to turn on the female if she is not in the middle of her menstrual cycle. Remember, a quiet and serene environment is very important. Hormones, play a very important role in sexual drive motivation.

Music, the right type, can be a turn on. Females are more likely to be turned on by a partner who is “smooth, gentle and kind “ emotionally attached rather than by a partner who is rough and tough. Some women are definitely turned on by the rough and tough but this is a minority.

The Food and Drug Administration approved a device called EROS for the treatment of FSAD. It has been shown to have a minimal effect. In Britain is costs about two hundred pounds. It is the suthor’s opinion that the same effect can be achieved using the suction-vibrator which can be purchased relatively cheaply.

In 2001 a cream, called the “desire cream” was introduced to the UK market. It’s impact was minimal. Desire cream produces a tingly sensation in the clitoris. It has not produced the hype which surrounded it’s release.

Most females like to think about sex for a long period of time. So advances should be slow and gentle.

Picture 1: External Female sex genitalia.

The male sex hormone testosterone has been prescribed to remedy FSAD. It has not shown any benefit. So do not waste your money or time trying it. It is likely to make you more hairy, have spots, a deep voice and enlarge the female clitoris.

Use of the Viagra has been shown to have a positive effect on the sexual drive of women. WWW is full of pharmacy stores marketing these. The cheapest ones are available from Thailand and India. Your private practitioner (GP) should be willing to write you a prescription. In some instances, if you are buying a large supply, of medications you can actually go to one of these countries on a holiday.

The other name for viagra is sildenafil (Viagra). It has been prescribed for both men and women. In women, it seems to help by increasing the blood flow to the vagina and the clitoris. Some studies show that sildenafil increases the lubrication in the female’s vagina.

In the second part of this article I will write about the factors which are known to “turn off” the female. The following are some of the factors which are known to interfere with female sexual drive and libido.

In females any degree of anxiety associated with work: relationships with others and relationship problems with sexual partner will have a turned off effect.

In any one day there are only a certain number of hours. Excessive work will have the effect of driving down the sexual drive.

Many females have been “educated” not to enjoy sex. For example, Moslem women are educated not to be touched by men of other religions and not to have sex before they are married. This type of hang-up from childhood may interfere with your relationship.

Females who have been abused or raped when they were very young may have problems entering into a healthy adult relationship. These issues can be addressed by professionally qualified individuals.

Latent issues about lesbianism can sometimes interfere with a sexual relationship from reaching it’s full potential.

Lack of attachment between the husband / partner can sometimes be a problem.

Sometimes conditions of the home (like poverty) lack of privacy and nutrition can be important factors which interfere with a healthy sexual relationship. Sharing a home with a bullying mother in law or in-laws in general can ruin a healthy relationship.

Last but not least, some females have problems with circulation and location of the clitoris. If circulation is the problem then please go to this link: http://socyberty.com/sexuality/how-to-achieve-orgasm/  

Image via Wikipedia For some people a quiet boat ride is a turn onabove. For others Viagra is a turn on. It takes all sorts to make this world. Nether is right or wrong.

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