So, you like a girl and you want to seduce her. That’s what we all want! No one wants to like someone that’s not interested in them. But if you want her to be into you, then you need to seduce her. You may think that it’s next to impossible to seduce a woman but that’s where you’re wrong. You may think that you’re not cool enough or don’t have the looks but seduction has nothing to do with that. In fact, most men that are exceptional seducers aren’t looking like Brad Pitt. So what’s the secret? Well, it has a lot to do with self-confidence and practice.
You may do well with getting girls to talk to you or taking them out on dates but you can never seal the deal. This could be due to various reasons but there’s something either in your delivery or actions which turn them off. Now, these are general steps, however, they the foundation for seducing a woman. All women have their own preferences when it comes to men, however, there are some base rules that you need to follow that’ll help you with your game.
In this article, you’re going to be shown how to seduce a girl and get her in bed but this all will mean nothing unless you’re confident in yourself and don’t mind practising. Expect rejection because it will happen but once you find your flow, you’ll be unstoppable.
Take time to get to know her
If you want to seduce her, but actually seduce her, you need to get to know her. This isn’t just to benefit you, this also benefits her as well. If you want there to be a connection, you’re going to have to spend some time talking and flirting with each other. Now, don’t come off too forceful or fake by pretending to be interested in getting to know her. This will only end up with her feeling uncomfortable or getting bored with you.
So, take some time and chat with her. It can be in-person, which is ideal, but you can also do this via text as well. Don’t be quick to make any sort of move, right now you’re simply getting to know her and warm things up.
Listen, women have plenty of experience being hit on and seduced by men. We know what works and what doesn’t. The one thing that doesn’t work is if you’re coming off as fake. If she senses that you’re not being yourself, she’ll slide past you. From the beginning to the end, you need to be genuine at all times. If not, it’s not going to end the way you hoped for.
Now, you shouldn’t be wondering how you can be genuine. All this means is that you need to be yourself. If you’re acting like someone you’re not, this entire plan isn’t going to work so well for you. So, talk about things you like, things she likes, and try to see if there’s any common interest shared between you.
Make her feel safe
Now you may be thinking why you need to do this, but stay with me for a second. If she doesn’t feel safe around you, do you think she’s honestly going to drop her guard and let you seduce her? She won’t. She won’t be nice around you or friendly, if anything, she’s going to try to get away from you. This doesn’t mean you need to play Mr Nice Guy, but it does mean you need to be considerate and show her you’re a gentleman.
Be put together
You may be charming as hell but if she doesn’t see you as someone who looks put together, it’s not going to go anywhere. Now, you don’t need to look like you’d just come out of a magazine nor do you need to oil your abs - that’s not what this is about. When I mean put together, I mean that you look like someone who’s yourself but also a balanced person. Take your regular showers, trim or shave your beard properly and just take a couple of extra minutes to make sure you look clean. Women like men who look clean. What you wear doesn’t necessarily matter, you just need to look like you know what a shower is and how to use a bar of soap.
Keep your feelings somewhat reserved
Yes, you should be genuine and open with her, but this doesn’t mean you need to tell her everything about how you feel about her. A big problem that happens with men is that they jump too quickly on the opportunity to tell a woman that they like her. This doesn’t work to seduce her, if anything, it shows that you’re emotionally needy and desperate. Whether she knows you like her or not is part of the mystery for her. She’s trying to figure out in her head whether you have feelings for her, don’t give away the answer too quickly.
See, when it comes to seduction it is a game. You both know how you feel about each other but the fun is trying to find out if it’s true or not. Instead, keep your cool and don’t confess your feelings to her right away. Add some excitement to the chase and create suspense, this will all work to create seduction.
Work on the comfort zone
In order to make her feel comfortable, you need to be genuine and patient. You want to be able to get inside her comfort zone, her personal space. As you’re talking and flirting with her, you can touch her arm or hand, seeing how she reacts. If she touches you back or doesn’t pull away, then it shows you she’s allowing you into her space. However, you should never touch her right away. Keep your hands to yourself until you see signs that she wants you close to her.
If you want to seduce her, you’re going to need to flirt with her. How else will you be able to create sexual tension? If you don’t work on flirting with her, then you won’t be able to push the conversation further. You want her to crave for you to touch her.
So this requires for you to flirt with her. You can do this by sitting closely next to her, talking into her ear, prolonged eye contact and light eye contact. You’re trying to build up the sexual tension with her so you need to know the right moves. If at any time she’s moving away from you, give her space and back off. It may be too aggressive for her and you need to respect her space.
We all know that you like her, but you need to take your time. Of course, the minute you see the interest you can make a move, but that’s not how you should do it. Don’t take the first opportunity that’s handed to you. Instead, skip it and allow the sexual tension to build up. By teasing and flirting with her, you intensify the chase and that always makes things that much better.
Be a tease
So, you’ve been taking your time and flirting with her. You feel the sexual tension between you two which is a good sign that she’s into you. You’ve already grabbed her attention and seduced her, and now, you need to take it to the next level.
Keep the flirty conversation going, giving her a little bit more, however, not everything that she wants. You can tease her, play some cute games together and have a good laugh. It’ll make the experience that much better.
Take the conversation to the next level
Okay, so, let’s get this straight. You’ve been chatting with her, flirting, and now you’ve seduced her. She’s obviously been playing along in the game because she’s still around. But now you need to take it to the next level. Whether you’re in person, on the phone or texting each other, you can take the conversation into a dirtier avenue. Now, you don’t have to go into a rated-R monologue, but, you can start by asking her an innocent question that has the potential of getting dirty. Now, remember, she’ll indicate whether or not she wants to take it down a dirty road, so it’s better if you let her give you the signal that she’s comfortable with the conversation.
Ask her out
Now, you’ve done everything there is right before you kiss her. But just before you do that, ask her out on a date. You’ll need to see her in person if you want to kiss her, right? Ask her out and tell her that you’d like to see her soon. Now it’s best to make the plans as soon as possible. If you actually are interested in being with her, take her out on a real date. If you both understand that this is a casual thing, then invite her to your place or to go hers. What you need to do though is during a conversation with her, see what she’s looking for. If she’s interested in something more and you’re not, it could become tricky.
This isn’t something that should be rushed. when you see her on your date, don’t just grab her and kiss her. Instead, take some time and let the sexual tension bubble a little bit more. You two have already been somewhat intimate via text, etc. So, she already knows that you find her attractive. This is why you need to take it slow during the date and build the sexual tension up above and beyond.
Plus, just because you’ve spoken dirty to her via text doesn’t mean you’re going to get into her pants right now or if at all. If you rush, you have the potential of completely killing the mood and her pulling away from you. So, go slow and take your time when going in for the kiss. If you make out with her, let her decide how far you two will go.
You now know how to seduce a girl and get her into bed. Remember, you’ll get some rejections along the way, however, you need to push through and keep trying. Eventually, you’ll learn what works best for you when it comes to seducing women.