Top Kinky Sex Ideas for Couples

When you’ve been with your partner for so long, sometimes you lose the spice that was once in your intimate life. Don’t look at this as something abnormal, this happens with all relationships. Work, kids, school, these factors can all play a part in your sex life. Who has the energy to have sex after a full day of school and then volunteer work? Being tired is understandable. But even though the thrill is gone, it doesn’t mean it’s lost forever. We know how a crappy sex can affect your relationship, so it’s your responsibility to try to spice things up. Being in a rut is one thing, but it’ll take one of you to jump-start the action in the bedroom again. With that being said, if you want to bring back the spark, you’re going to have to put in a little elbow grease and get creative with your ideas.

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Want your partner

If you want to bring the spice back into the bedroom, it’s time to actually want to have sex. Don’t do this just because you think you need to do it, do it because you want to. If you want to improve your sex life and have more sex, you’re going to need to be genuinely interested in having sex with your partner again. You need to show your partner that you want them. It’s a thrill to have your partner want you again. This may not be the kinkiest idea, but it’s what needs to happen in order to ignite the flame.

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Do the passionate kiss

This isn’t the time to give your partner a quick peck, you need to give them the passionate kisses you shared with them when you were first dating. It shouldn’t be when they’re expecting it either. If you want to get the chemistry going, kiss them passionately while they’re leaving for work, whisper in their ear that you can’t wait to see them later. This will get them worked up and excited for the work day to end. Or, if they’re in bed reading a book, put the book down and grab them by the hair and give them a kiss. Now, you don’t have to do this every time, but everyone once in a while, give them a kiss they weren’t expecting.

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Don’t be shy with oral sex

Once couples have been together, they seem to ease up on giving and receiving oral sex. When you were first dating, oral sex was a huge part of your sex life with your partner. Though, after a while, performing oral sex starts to wither away slowly and penetration usually ends up being the biggest thing in sex. Wow your partner with amazing cunnilingus or blowjob. This will certainly knock their socks off and et them aroused. Though this isn’t something that’s extremely kinky, it’s what needed to bring the passion back into the bedroom. While performing oral sex, don’t be afraid to use your fingers to incorporate anal play.

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Take it public

If you’re tired of the ole bedroom routine, well, then who said you had to keep it in the bedroom? The next time you’re driving home with your partner, why not start to rub their inner thigh? Or when you’re watching a movie on your couch, give them oral sex? There are countless places for you to have sex that isn’t a foot into your bedroom. If you want to take it to an even more public place, check out the beach, park, sauna, etc. You can literally make out or have sex anywhere. To start it off, you can kiss your partner or rub their arms or legs. Show them that you’re become aroused.

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Live their (and your) fantasizes

You may know what their fantasies are but did you ever try to make them come true? What about your fantasies? Your or your partner’s sexual fantasies don’t have to only be played out in your minds. Ask your partner what their sexual fantasies are and see how you’ll be able to incorporate them into your sex life. Your partner will be thrilled to see you taking initiative and interest in their secret desires. Of course, it depends on what you and your partner feel comfortable doing but it can be anything from having a threesome to doing role play.

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Play around with BDSM

I know you’ve seen 50 Shades of Grey but it doesn’t have to stop there. Why not give it a try? BDSM is all about testing out limits, dominance, and submission. If you’ve done it before why not try it again? If you’re new at it, well, then it’ll be an experience for the both of you. You don’t need to go online a buy a bunch of BDSM equipment, you can simply try it out with just the two of you and see if you both like it.

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Bring out the porn

Nowadays, you can easily access porn, even for free. Try to watch porn with your partner as you two are masturbating or having sex with each other. If you want to, turn the volume up and have the moaning as your background music. Now, watching porn with your partner may not be your cup of tea, but if you haven’t tried it out before, then at least give it a try and see for yourself.

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Bondage

Now, it doesn’t have to be extreme bondage, but you can try to tie your partner up to the bed or vice versa. Bondage requires a massive amount of trust on both sides, however, can be really fun. If you’re tied up, you just have to let go and trust that your partner is going to do their best to pleasure you.

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Anal sex?

Anal sex has been getting a bad rap for years. This is only because many people are not properly prepared, thus, end up hurting the person who’s receiving. You can have amazing anal sex, however, you need to make sure that you’re properly prepared for it. Have water-soluble lubricant and anal toys if needed. Anal sex shouldn’t hurt and if it does, you’re either not in the right position or not using enough lube. Hint: you can never use enough lube. So, give it a try with your partner if it’s something you two have never done.

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Book a hotel room

There’s something about having sex in a hotel room which is just hot. You don’t have to travel anywhere for the weekend, you can get a hotel room in your city. The point is, there’s something freeing about not having to worry about cleaning the room or making sure you wash the towels – that isn’t your problem. All you have to do is focus on you and your partner for the entire time. Have sex in the shower, have a bath together, watch porn, stay up all night eating food off of each other’s bodies. You’re completely free to do whatever you want.

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Get drunk with your partner

Drunk sex can be really fun and relieving. Go to a club or bar with your partner and get tipsy or drunk. Make out on the dance floor, take each other home, have that sloppy drunk sex that you used to have when you were first dating them. Drunk sex can be extremely freeing as this is when you’re the most relaxed.

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Switch partners

This is extremely kinky in comparison to the other ideas I’ve suggested. You’re really going to need to sit down with your partner and talk this through. If this is something that you both want to do, then great. But if they’re not into it, you’re going to have to abort this idea. You can try bringing in another person into the bedroom or you can switch partner with another couple. Some people get turned on when they see their partner having sex with someone else. However, this is going to require you to trust your partner so you don’t get jealous. If you’re a jealous type, then doing this may not bring out the best in you.

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Sex toys

Sex toys are becoming frequently popular in the bedroom and it’s something you and your partner should decide on together. Make it an experience for the both of you. Go to the sex shop together and choose a couple toys that you both think would be fun to try. Now, you may not like one toy, however, after a couple tries, you’ll find one that suits you and your partner the best. Dildos, vibrators, anal beads, there are an endless amount of toys to choose from, you just need to give it a try.

Now that you know some of the kinky ideas that you can incorporate into your sex life, why not give them a try? Remember, you need to talk to your partner first and see if they’re comfortable with some of these ideas. If not, you’ll have to respect your partner’s concerns and try out something else. Don’t see it as a failed attempt, instead, see it as a boundary. As long as you’re communicating with your partner, you shouldn’t have a problem bringing the kinkiness back into the bedroom. If you’ve tried some of these ideas before, let us know in the comment section below!

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